Jealous if your wife’s lovers better than you?

Discussion in 'Real Life Experiences' started by Criticalkink, May 13, 2020.

  1. Criticalkink

    Criticalkink Member

    Thought I would put this out there and see if people agree with me or not.

    set up:
    I had a close male friend who knew of our lifestyle and while I think he really wanted him and his wife to dip their toes in this kinky water we so love, to my knowledge they never did, asked me this question one day and was dumbfounded by my answer

    Question:
    “Aren’t you scared that whoever your wife is fucking will have a bigger dick and fuck her 10 times better than you?”

    My answer:
    “God I fucking hope so!”

    He just could not wrap his brain around my answer and attitude about it.
     
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  2. SmallFry

    SmallFry Active Member

    In general many people male or female do not understand draw to cuckoldry nor SPH. I totally agree with your reply to him. My penis is tiny so most adult males and the majority of teens are better endowed than me so being out manned in the bedroom is very unlikely anyway. Besides it would totally not serve my partners purposes if they weren't superior to me.
     
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  3. Worth It

    Worth It Well-Known Member

    My wife said that there is no "better" among my dick and the three guys she plays with (two regularly, but one couple is in Germany) and their wives. She is more into the variety of the experiences. Even if one of them is better than me somehow, good for her, I'm not concerned. The chef at the one restaurant we (used to) go to regularly is a much better cook than I am. Am I jealous? Will my wife leave me for him? No, especially since I let her enjoy his talents. Same goes for the other guys Audrey fucks.
     
  4. Criticalkink

    Criticalkink Member

    My wife doesn’t want a huge dick. She just wants one that knows what the hell its doing. We are both about the overall experience. Did everyone leave satisfied? I’m the first to admit sometimes I can’t last as long as some of the men she’s been with before I cum. I get caught up in the moment and just lose it sometimes. One of her favorites can go all night long and will not cum until someone tells him too. Damnedest thing I’ve ever seen. But now once he cums, that’s it, he’s done.

    Like you I’m not worried at all about her leaving me. I know of very few men who would ever entertain the idea of their wife having a one time lover much less having male and female lovers for years. Not that many in number but for many years with basically the same ones.
     
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  5. don_jetman

    don_jetman Well-Known Member Founding Member

    I doubt whether a big dick is going to end your relationship unless it's shaky to begin with and she's looking for a way out. But, it's human nature for a woman to become emotionally involved if you do this long enough. L had this happen once long ago when she first started fucking other men and we both learned to see the signs and learned from the experience. She learned to savor emotional involvement but to keep it at arm's length, and I came away with the foresight to see the signs early and discuss it with her. I've also learned not to become too reactionary about her relationship with other men, and that people don't "own" other people, husband's don't "own" wives. She knows I love it when she has "better" sex with someone, whether it's a bigger dick or just the physical attraction of a great body. It's the novelty, the excitement of someone new, and the jolt of chemistry with another guy, even if she's had him before. Where's she going to find someone else who will give her the freedom to play, and the ability to bring that excitement back into our own bed together?
     
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  6. Criticalkink

    Criticalkink Member

    I couldn’t agree with you more. My wife won’t fuck someone just to be fucking. She has to have some sort of attraction to them be it, looks, build, their package and her favorite, if they can hold a conversation, have a sense of humor and it’s obvious they take care of themselves. She’s had better sex and she’s had not so better sex when she’s not with me. If she’s smiling and laughing when it’s over we have a potential keeper. If she looks at me straight faced then there was a problem.

    I mention this last bit because it just happened again not an hour ago. My wife can not stand an unkept man and woman. She will literally gag if she trys to talk about it. One of Her girlfriends was telling her a recent horror story where the girl friend and her husband hooked up with another couple who's privates hadn’t seen a pair of scissors or a razor in what had to be years. Couldn’t finish relating the story to me once she started gagging.
     
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  7. I am totally with ur wife here. I enjoy my other "friends", but I really enjoy my regular boyfriend. I was seeing him once a month until this Covid crap started and I miss his company a lot! The chemistry has to be there, limitations should be set to be sure all parties are on the same page. Sure, I love his cock, awesome size and stamina and because he knows how to treat me like the slut that I am, I am attracted to him even more! Just the thought of being with him again turns me on.. Men, understand this. When women play with other men, it's not love--it's just sex! From the excitement alone, a stranger can bring out the most intense emotions imaginable! He could perform the same as her spouse performs, but it is 10 times more exciting because it's taboo and shouldn't be done! Trust me--the moaning and making sounds that I don't make with my spouse--it's stranger sex, and it's normal. I can definitely add that enjoying each other after I have had my boyfriend sex, is exciting in a different way. It's like reminiscing my own porno because I share how my boyfriend made me feel and my spouse can enjoy the aftermath. My after-sex scent usually adds to the sharing in a very erotic way!
     
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  8. Worth It

    Worth It Well-Known Member

    Audrey tells me that she has been able to orgasm on every dick she has had in her, it's not just the guy's responsibility, she makes it happen.

    Exactly the same for us, not many but regulars. And great to hear that I'm not the only one whose wife cucks him with women too. Audrey likes FFM with married couples and has three of them. (Although one couple is in Germany and she doesn't see them now.)

    Audrey needs pussy as much as dick. When the two of us have been away by ourselves for a while for whatever reason, she always gets with her girls once we're back.

    Audrey's prior serious boyfriends knew she was nonmonogamous and had lovers; two of them asked her to get married but expected monogamy (one said women were ok). She turned them down. I was fine with it, so I got the prize.
     
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  9. Hi there..you sound like a great guy! You accept that ur wife loves to fuck others and admits that ur cock doesn't prioritize; that's an awesome thing to admit. I love my hubby and refuse to treat him like an excessive cockhold. I will not insult him as to cock size, but instead will let him know what turns me on with my other fucks. He enjoys how I enjoy others and THAT, we enjoy sharing the most.
     
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  10. Worth It

    Worth It Well-Known Member

    Women are able to have more sex and more orgasms than any guy. Audrey (and I) believe that being in a committed relationship shouldn't constrain a woman to only having the amount of sex one man can provide. There's no humiliation in that.

    One thing that is ignored here is many women's need for pussy. I don't know if that's considered cuckolding, but for us, Audrey's lesbian side is half the story.

    Until I started watching and participating, I didn't know how enjoyable it would be.
     
  11. bellaazz

    bellaazz Well-Known Member

    My wife likes to be nice to me when discussing the size and talents of her lovers but I totally understand. I WANT them to be bigger and better than me ! For her enjoyment...........
     
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  12. SmallFry

    SmallFry Active Member

    Despite the massive thrill it is for me because of my SPH thing it would absolutely dampen my ardour if she did not enjoy the attentions of the other guy. Never happened but I am certain if she wasn't pleased I would not be pleased.
    My wife totally understood my SPH fetish which actually the majority of women I have known don't really get. She had no problem aiding and abetting my fetish as she knew it would not cause me any stress or anxiety. Of course she totally benefitted from our expanded sexual lifestyle.
     
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  13. bellaazz

    bellaazz Well-Known Member

    Yes, I certainly get it. If she isn't pleased we cannot be. I will say when my wife saw how turned on I used to get when she would talk about past sexual experiences and sex with much bigger and more talented men, it was then a great thing for us because she used to really enjoy telling me about them as much as I enjoyed hearing about them. Then when she started cuckolding me, it carried over so when we are alone and she wants me to cum, she will talk about her recent fuck session and gets me to cum in seconds !
     
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  14. SmallFry

    SmallFry Active Member

    She told me about a number of her former lovers which was a massive turn on for me but eventually she arranged a hook up with one of them and he was perfectly ok with me being in attendance.
    His flaccid cock was longer and thicker than mine fully erect and looked at least twice my size erect. She had described to me how big he was and how good of a lover he was but actually seeing his cock compared to mine and how he seemingly easily gave her orgasms was incredibly arousing.
    Sometime down the road we engaged in a foursome with his girlfriend and watching him giving it to both women was double the fun. I fucked his gf but I think it was just politeness on her part as she was quite obviously a little surprised and disappointed at just how tiny I am. Of course cumming after about 3 or 4 strokes did nothing to assuage her initial assessment of my manhood.
     
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  15. bellaazz

    bellaazz Well-Known Member

    Yes, I was always afraid that we would get into more of a "swing" situation at one point and I would have to perform for the other wife but it never happened yet. My wife is too jealous (thank God, I would be so worried about being a complete failure). My wife talked about her ex boyfriend who she said had the fattest cock she has ever seen, even in porn or in pictures. She described it as like a salami and she said it stretched her out so bad it wasn't that enjoyable and she apologized if it stretched her out too much for me ! When she told me that, I was already about to cum. All I could think about was this guy with this "salami" cock fucking her !
     
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  16. verkitwme

    verkitwme Well-Known Member

    My lovers are extremely well hung and that with the fact that they really know how to use it really limits my interest with a guy with a small cock...….
     
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  17. SmallFry

    SmallFry Active Member

    When I have attempted to fuck after a thick cock has been in first my skinny penis is totally lost inside.
    My wife was "spoiled" by former lovers who were on the larger side and apparently quite adept as well. She doesn't think of herself as a size queen but she admitted she had never been with any guy who was anywhere near as small as me.
     
  18. bellaazz

    bellaazz Well-Known Member

    Yes, my wife says it is not just the size, it is when they really know how to use it. Once she had that, she lost interest in my cock (but got really interested in my tongue and oral skills !!!)
     
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  19. SmallFry

    SmallFry Active Member

    My saving grace is my tongue and finger dexterity. However most women I have found also like a good fuck to go with it.
    One girl I had a very short relationship with had absolutely no interest in foreplay or anything else but just fucking. Strange but true. I had no chance keeping her sexually satisfied. Certainly didn't help that her former BF (whom I knew) was particularily well endowed. He dumped her and I suspect I know why. Right from the start it was no mystery that she was not at all enamoured that my penis is so tiny even before I disappointed her when I actually tried to fuck her. The look on her face when she saw my cock for the first time spoke volumes.
     
  20. verkitwme

    verkitwme Well-Known Member

    I must say my hubby has incredible oral skills and he uses his fingers at the same time. I like to be fingered anally and vaginally when he's giving me head. Makes for an intense orgasm.
     
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