I've posted comments similar to this here in the past, but I think it's worth repeating. My wife has never picked a partner based on race. Most of her lovers over the years have been white. Manly because she tends to seduce friends of mine (ours) that she already has a friendship with, that she develops into a "friends with benefits" dynamic. We have other friends of other races, black, Asian, etc., but to be honest, we live in the burbs, in a predominately white area, so most of our friends tend to be white. That said, one of her longest and most passionate relationships was with a black gentleman. She wasn't looking for a black bull or anything, he was just someone she sat next to on a flight home from a confrenence she had attended. He was on the same flight to our city, to look for an apartment/condo, due to a job relocation. They talked for hours during the flight, and she offered to help him find a good place to live, that would be close to work, in an upscale area of town that fit his lifestyle and price range. Once he had moved into his new place about a month later, she continued to see him casually, showing him around town, and having him meet us when we were out with friends. At the time, she was really trying to hook him up with one of her friends or co-workers, or at the very least introduce him to some new friends. Eventually, their own mutual attraction became undeniable, and after a night of drinking, they had a very frank conversation where they both admitted their attraction for eachother, and she admitted she was in a relationship where she was open to be with other men. It took several week of convincing and describing our relationship, and she explaining how selective she is when choosing a sexual partner, for him to actually wrap his head around the idea, but eventually nature took it's course, and they became lovers! She didn't pick him because he was black, or because he had a mythical BBC (although in this particular case the myth was true). She chose him because he was smart, attractive, attentive, and respectful to her. He stayed her regular lover for 3 plus years, because he was amazing in bed (her words), a classy and fun person to be around, and someone she grew to love beyond the initial lust. Their regular weekly meets only ended when his job was once again relocated across the country. They are still lovers, but only on the rare occasions (once or twice a year), when he comes out to visit us, or we travel to see him. When they are together, she is completely sexually exclusive to him, and they spend hours in bed, making up for lost time! On the occasions when I go with her to meet him, I am restricted to watching and/or listening to them.