Discussion in 'Polls and Humor' started by wagonneer, Feb 26, 2008.
ok im curious how long can a marriage last with cuckolding?
There's no real way to quantify that. I'd assume forever as long as boundaries were accepted and honored and love was the basis of the relationship. How long can a marriage last with BDSM? It's a huge question that has no concrete answer.
How long will it last?
Donâ€™t know if I qualify as a real cuck or not but the wife and I started going together just before our 18th birthday, I took her cherry when we were 19 (she was a sweet shy church going Catholic girl back then) we married when we were 21 had our two children at 28 and 30 (the wife had her tubes tied after our last child), the wife was 35 when she went with her first ever other guy (all our sex since our she had her tubes tied has been bare back sex including with all her other lovers), that got us into the swinging and swapping life stile which we enjoyed for a couple of years, then we stopped because of family commitments.
In our late 30â€™s we started having M F M 3/somes and the wife got herself a couple of lovers that she would see either with or without me, it was not as if I did not enjoy her going with other guys at all in fact I loved it when she would come home all hot wet and sexy after being with another guy just as much as I loved watching and joining in with her and her lover when she bought them home with her.
We have now been married 45 years and still have an active sex life between ourselves, we find that at this stage of our life we donâ€™t need the hassles of running around meeting other guys, I am not saying that it wonâ€™t happen again if the situation is right but we are not looking for it like we used to.
PS we are still friends with two couples that we started swinging with way back in the mid 70â€™s, no sex involved now but we do go on holidays together now and then.
Just my 2 cents worth I think that if you have a strong marriage going into having sex with others and you both go in with your eyes wide open then itâ€™s a lot of fun.
If you go into it trying to patch up a shaky marriage then you are doomed right from the start.
Interesting question... as King said, there is no way to judge that. What makes a vanilla marraige break up?
For me, I can honestly say I am in a long term marriage and nether of us plan on it ending (wether cuckolding continues or not). Even though my marraige does not meet the fantasy version of cuckolding found on the internet it is certainly not mainstream. I was cuckolded in the classic sense back in 91 when the wife cheated on me. We worked through it and moved on then began swinging on and off for the last 10 years or so. In the last year we have done more of the internet style D/s cuckolding and i hope that we continue this for, well, a long damn time!
I know there are those on this site and others that calim to be in a true cuckold relationship and hopefully they can weigh in on the matter (with some real life experience ).
i guess what i was hoping 4 was ive heard so many say these types of marriages rarely last, i was looking for examples to the contrary, just to show, that this can work to all, and i wish to congradulate Rick, on their very successfull marriage, and you too newsub, you know you hear so many pessimistic views, you hope to hear some true success like you guys have and like my wife and i are confident we will have, while i may not be a complete cuckold in the net style but it is fun, and we are each others best friend and soul mates, thanks guys
Kate and I have been married for over 16 years and we dated for two years prior to marriage. Kate has never stopped fucking other men since we started dating. Although we have played around with couples 'swinging' it was never of much interest to me. I have always preferred for Kate to date and fuck other guys while I watch or wait for her. I love cream pies and sloppy seconds.
Kate says that she is happier than she has ever been in her life and we have no plans to end our marriage. The more guys she fucks the happier I am.
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Long term marriage
It has been said several times, but here it is again: If you love the person your with and they love you, and your able to clearly and gently discuss both of your needs then things will work out.
My wife and I have been together since our teens (over 40 years). I was her first lover and sexual partner. I, however, knew early in life that I was going to enjoy my partner having sex with other men. I approached the subject early in our relationship and brought several co-service men home with me. She did what I wanted and eventually started going it alone. She has always involved me in the sexual partnerships early on and we soon found that it was mutual satisfaction. Over the years we slowly brought down the numbers of men she has been with and I have expanded into bi-sexual activities (with her knowledge) but never have either of us ever wanted something different. We love each other dearly and will be together until the death or one or the other, even though we may from time to time enjoy sex with others.
It has worked for me and my wife and I suppose it should work for others.
My wife and I have been married for almost 9 years now and we dated for 3 years prior to that. Even during our dating my wife would cheat on me and I really enjoyed it even then. She stopped having sex with others once we got married, but I convinced her to begin again after about 2 years. We've been happy since. What's makes a marriage, especially a cuckold marriage, work isn't sex. It's communication and trust. Just my two cents, but a cuckold marriage can last like any other.
Is length important? (grin)
I confess that I asked a leading question in the title. But having explored the BDSM community, the swinging community, and now the cuckold community, I have to say that the cuckold crowd is a fairly stable bunch. Yes, I know. Most here are wannabe cuckolds, and that introduces a confusing intervening variable.
But mainly what I noticed is that the open swinging community is highly volatile. I have developed a theory about that. Far too many people get into swinging in an effort to save their stale marriages. That is no way to save a stale marriage. That is a way to offer outside options.
But there are others who use swinging as a way for the wife to find friends with benefits, so to speak. That is exactly how I landed on this board. I was in the swinging community as a male whose mate decided not to play. Hence I met couples. Many of the guys there truly feed off the excitement and newness of watching their wives rediscover the erotic intensity of being wooed and enraptured.
No, wait. I'm describing the dynamics of this lifestyle. Hence, I moved over here. And is this lifestyle stable for marriages? For guys who have this fantasy and the wives do not, I'm not so sure. For couples who embrace it, everyone is a winner.
Married a while.....
In July we will have been married about twenty-nine years and at about the same time we will have been playing for about twenty-one years...I know the date we were married but I don't know date of the first mfm.
Started with mfm, explored swinging while still doing mfm and then into her dating and still with the mfm. Some cuck aspects for over ten years but that was before we began to think of it as cuckold things. I mean, heck she was a hotwife at least ten? years before we knew the term...we just thought it was step toward swinging.
About 25 years
Susan and I have been together 28 years and she's been fucking other guys pretty regularly for the past 25 years. There was a lull when the kids were between 8 and 14. I'm not sure where that fits in in the grand scheme of things.
Hubbie and I have been married 32 yrs, I have been cuckolding him for 22 yrs, I have cucked him around 1500 times in 22 yrs and we still love each over very much.
My first was 15 years, ended with a traffic mishap, second going on 20 years, eh... like so many say, it is the same as a vanilla in length, just what you both accept as "normal"
30 years and going strong
My wife and I met in 1978 and moved in together 4 months later. She first cucked me with the owner of a furniture store that she was shopping in. She told me and promised never to do it again but it turned me hard when she told me how she went at it with him on his desk. We had great sex and I would ask her to tell me the details over and over again. She carried on with my buddies at beer parties. Once there was a line of girls at a party waiting to use the bathroom. I walked by to get another beer and they asked me if I could get Di to not use the bathroom to fuck in because they needed to use the toilet. That was my first humilation situation. I took her out back behind the garage and eat her, then fucked her silly. Now I work construction and stay out of town alot. She calls me and we have phone sex whenever she gets home from a date. Sometimes she calls and I listen while she gets fucked.
I love my life.
I met a couple at a private party a couple of months back that said they had been swinging for nearly 40 years. They were married in their late teens and were now in their early sixties.
wow...i'm totaly impressed with ya all here! I've been married for 10 years . My wife and have been involved in the BDSM community, centering our relationship around the D/s aspect of the lifestyle, and for us it has worked. It made our relationship stronger and brought us closer to each then we ever thought possible. When we started out she was totaly submssive to me. I introduced her to the lifestyle and she seemed to take to it like a duck to water.....however in the 10 years we've been togther are roles have gradualy traded places to the point I now find myself on the other end of the leash.
Married late teens. Had her first lover within a year with my encouragement. She's been doing it ever since, and has had many short term and long term lovers. She is now 52 years old, still gorgeous, and has no plans to ever stop fucking other men. After the holidays, she is going on a 2 week vacation with her favorite FB.
There is no way to describe how much fun we have had over the years with hotwifing and cuckolding. If you have a good relationship, and view the extra sex as just having fun, you will be okay. My wife has had several very intimate relationships, but she always made it clear to her lover that he was just a toy, and should enjoy the hot sex without pushing for more.
She has cut off a few guys who started to get too possessive. The funniest was that she had two simultaneous long term lovers once, and they both started getting too possessive at the same time. She told them both about the other guy, which made them jealous of each other, and they basically forgot about me as competition. The competition between these two men made them both much better lovers. This went on for a few years until we moved away. They both still get an occasional opportunity to fuck my wife.
Establish the right perspective, and you can have untold amounts of fun being cucked by your wife.
Wife and i have been married 19 yrs and she has been fucking other guys for 18. In that time she has fucked 20 different guys (I keep a list of thier names). Most of them NUMEROUS times each. only 4 of them were timers. I have been present for most of them but several of the guys i never even had the pleasure to meet. she would fuck them in motels while i waited at home babysitting the kids. We both LOVE the lifestyle and dont plan on stopping anytime soon.
My wife & I also started out as swingers and then progressed to MFM and now, pretty much a cuckold relationship. She has a steady boyfriend she gets together with often. I usually get the pleasure of cleaning her up, then sloppy seconds. We have discussed the option of her moving another guy in with us, but so far that has not happened.
We got started after about 5 years of marriage in the swinger lifestyle, but have been in the cuckold scene for the past 5 years or so as well. We have been married for nearly 16 years now.
32 Years and counting...
My wife has been having sex with other men since we were dating. She cheated on me with her old boyfriend and instead of getting mad, I asked her to marry me telling her she could sleep with as many men as she wanted as often as she wanted and not only would I not care, I would enjoy having her do so. I do not count this as her first realtionship because she was not aware that I enjoyed her being used by other men. It was shortly after our marriage that she cheated with a coworker and friend of mine while I was out of town at a business school. We are working on our 32nd year of marriage and we are currently working on finding her one or more longterm safe and sane relationships.
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