Hello, a new member here. Just asking for some advice on what may seem quite a minor matter. My wife and I have been together for ten years, married for five. For the last few months she has been having an affair, with my enthusiastic support. She and her lover are, shortly, to go away for the first time together. My wife and I always communcate - normally by text - rather a lot when we are apart. Everything from an initial 'Good morning', through 'How is your day going?', 'What are you up to?' to 'Good night; love you'. Nothing unusual in that. My question is, when she is away with her lover what will be the hotter: - for her not to text me at all, but to concentrate entirely on her lover? - or for her to keep me informed, but not all the details. Telling me she has just woken up (in bed with her lover); that she is just about to go to dinner (with her lover); and not to reply when I ask what she (and her lover) are up to, because she is too busy (with her lover). (I do not expect all the details all the time, she needs to be paying more attention to him than that implies; she can fill me in on the details when she returns.) So, I just wonder - what do other husbands find hottter? What do wives find hotter? And why?