Warnings for first time hotwife?

Discussion in 'A Womans Perspective' started by Jessie N woody, Mar 22, 2018.

  1. Jessie N woody

    Jessie N woody New Member

    My wife and I are looking to open our marriage and begin our cuckold journey.
    We have been together for 15+ years and have an active and kinky sex life but so far it's only been the two of us.
    We plan to introduce another man soon and we're looking to avoid any of the more common pitfalls/mistakes new couples face.
    Any advice would be welcome.
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  2. Kudalskies

    Kudalskies Well-Known Member Founding Member

    Whatever you both do, do it together always!

    Though her playing alone might sound hot and exciting but for sure problems will arise and things will backfire, it happened with us.
  3. Jessie N woody

    Jessie N woody New Member

    Ill bare that in mind, thanks. Any other tips? This is more for my wife's benefit, she has... Reservations.
    She's turned on by the idea but is worried it will affect the marriage.
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  4. Wife4others

    Wife4others Guest

    Be open and honest with each other. And always talk. Works for us.
  5. Happyhub

    Happyhub Guest

    Your wife may be unsure how you will react when she is with another man. Even if you are reassuring her that you would love to see her with another man, and how much it would excite you, she may have the fear that you will become jealous. Constant assurances that seeing her aroused while fucking with another man. Let her know that her enjoyment and pleasure is the thing that you find exciting. If she has peace of mind about that issue she is much more likely to be relaxed and feel free to openly enjoy the experience. I hope it all goes well for you both.
  6. michael1987

    michael1987 Well-Known Member

    I wholeheartedly agree with you HappyHub.

    I notice that your description on your profile says

    "Wife is late. Might be baby number 4 for us. First from another man".

    It seems that was the situation back in May 2017. Was your wife in fact pregnant to another man then, and did that result in the birth of your 4th child?

    Is the other man still her lover?

    My wife has two infant children fathered by one man, her 24 year-old extremely fertile live-in lover who also happens to be my best buddy and lover too. She is now pregnant to him for the third time, and I am totally loving it.

    What about you?
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  7. Jessie N woody

    Jessie N woody New Member

    Out of interest, what went wrong? Did you get jealous?
  8. Jessie N woody

    Jessie N woody New Member

    Thank you, and thanks for the advice, that's exactly the sort of thing we are looking for.
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  9. Kudalskies

    Kudalskies Well-Known Member Founding Member

    No, no jealousy at all. Its just she chose to play behind my back and not tell me about it at all and when I found out she called it part of the play though I made it clean never have to hide a thing from me just tell me. It devastated me, I called it quits no more playing.

    It happens where one side becomes greedy. just be carful of that.
    Last edited: Mar 23, 2018
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  10. Wife4others

    Wife4others Guest

    The post is from march 20, 2018.
  11. Jessie N woody

    Jessie N woody New Member

    I think he means your status on your profile.
  12. UCUM666

    UCUM666 Well-Known Member

    Kudalskies reply is right on. I put out a post just moments ago regarding how I divorced my wife of 12 years and, in retrospect, wonder if I made the right decision. We're playing with fire in this lifestyle, and what's worse is that we think we know ourselves, but we may not really know the path we are on as we get older. It all changes as time marches on!
  13. fkmywfxn

    fkmywfxn Well-Known Member

    Be wary of the emotional connection your wife may feel if she has an incredibly good experience.
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  14. Jessie N woody

    Jessie N woody New Member

    Ugh.. thanks I guess
    I know what you mean though, were playing with fire really
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  15. Kudalskies

    Kudalskies Well-Known Member Founding Member

    yeah.. but it sure be a hot and steamy fire
    ....just don't let it burn you. ;)
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  16. BedHammer

    BedHammer New Member

    This is what I would say. Don't out a lot on the first meeting. Guys are notorious for not showing up, flaking out, or just outright sucking in bed. I would say don't go with a guy with a sick the same size as the husbands. What's the point. Not knowing hubby's size at minimum start with at least an 8 incher. I know it sounds trite. But trust me something simple as just the guy being well hung will make you both feel that this is something special.
  17. verkitwme

    verkitwme Well-Known Member

    Bottom line is to have open communication with your hubby and lover. My first time I was really nervous but fortunately my lover was really really cool and made us both feel at ease. Once I got his cock in my mouth and then my pussy I was hooked !!
  18. HerSubmissiveHubby

    HerSubmissiveHubby Well-Known Member

    Like many others have already stated here: open and full communication is vital to the success and happiness of both partners in this lifestyle.

    Sex is Sex but emotional connections can cause complications and ultimately jealousy and relationship issues. With some partners it is just sex and that sex can be amazing and fulfilling but after everyone gets off it is over and everyone goes there separate way. With others, usually partners who play often and frequently it can be hard to not allow emotional connections to develop. We have one partner who for the first year or so it was all just sex but as time and engagement went on emotional bonds were established and grew. These emotions were not isolated to my wife but to all three of us together and it has been great for us over the past seven years. But, that is probably the exception to the case.

    For us we also agree to play together, MFM.

    When we first got active in the Lifestyle we hooked up exclusively with other couples only. After several experiences we talked about them at length and my wife expressed she really enjoyed the attention and having sex with another man but she had a real problem in seeing me with another woman. We contemplated getting out of the Lifestyle and other options and ultimately decided to play exclusively with other men. For us this has worked out well and we have always had fun. But again, it was the communication that made it possible.
  19. socalcuckie

    socalcuckie New Member

    She was allowed to play alone and did so a few times. Playing with fire is a good way to describe it, but it worked for us. :)
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  20. Worth It

    Worth It Well-Known Member

    No problem with emotional connections or jealousy for us, my wife was just her fucking for fun, then she comes home. Or her lover leaves our place.

    My only warning is for people who want to play with strangers. Be really careful; we have only played with people we know well.
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