I have a query about this. Not out and out chastity as such, but when there are limitations on a husband's sexual access to his wife. Maybe for a short period of time; maybe some limitations in the type of access - certain acts prohibited, for instance. What are people's experience of this? Who initiated it? What did the husband, the wife, the lover get out of it? Maybe it was just a price worth paying for .... This is intellectual curiosity. My wife (currently) has two regular lovers and our sex life is at least as frequent and as varied as it was when she was faithful. All that has changed is the (lack of) exclusivity. I also hope I have Oates this in the correct forum; I was unsure.