I'm pretty sure I've seen a thread about this before, but I couldn't find it, so I'm starting a new one. My wife and her boyfriend have kept a low profile since they began seeing each other 2 1/2 years ago. He lives in another state and they mostly got together on business trips, so they would be careful not to make any public displays of affection or to reveal that they were more than acquaintances. If they went out to eat, they'd go to a different part of town. They usually got two hotel rooms, even though only one of them got used. It sounds like they were successful and that as far as they know, no colleagues on either side (they know each other through work but are not co-workers) ever got a whiff. So much for that. She visited him at his home last week. On Wednesday she and I were speaking by phone and she sprung on me that his office was having a social that night and she was going with him. Clearly as his date, she said. That news caused e to spring a stiffy that surprised me. It sounded like a fairly intimate event, maybe 15 people. She met everyone spent a fair amount of time chatting with his colleagues and then even more hanging out with their spouses. I would not have expected to find this so arousing. She's told a couple of her closest friends, and bits of information have accidentally leaked out to some of our relatives. The former seemed mildly hot and the latter regrettable, but neither a big deal. In this case, she told me it was a little hard to catch my breath, and for the next couple days thinking about it gave me a hard erection. I thought about it, and think it has something to do with the information that's implied. I think the group was very well-behaved, and I don't think she dressed particularly sexy. But I thought about what would have been obvious to everyone there. It was explained or understood that my wife is staying with him while in town, so of course they're having sex. She probably disclosed what state she lives in, but it was at least clear that she traveled some distance, so that makes it obvious that the sex is good, doesn't it? People would have asked her how long she was visiting. She would have told them 6 days, and they didn't hide how besotted they are for each other, so people will infer that it's a lot of good sex. I knew that going to the event would mean a lot to her -- that it would be a relief to finally be able to be open and that it would feel good to show people how much she cares for him. But I thought that the sexiness of the situation would occur to her and wanted to know if she also enjoyed that. I said she must be looking forward to it and asked why. She didn't give me much, just that she was looking forward to meeting some of his colleagues, and it would be a nice evening. I stewed in arousal and frustration until we spoke the next day. "Didn't at least part of you think it was hot, too?" "The dinner?" she asked, sounding like she had no idea. So I walked her through it. "You're staying at his house, so it's obvious you're fucking." "Oh, yeah," she said, leaning into it just enough to show that she did find it hot. It was like pulling back the veil just a little, and what I saw was both welcome and expected. I mean, I'm a bit thick on such things, but even I know women should be particularly conscious of appearances and what others will make of them. Also, my wife is especially sweet and good-hearted, but I know from glimpsing it just a few glimpses over the years that she does have a catty side that she tries to hide. I finished walking her through and got the same way-ahead-of-you affirmation at every point. It was something, but not completely satisfying. Which is probably why I'm writing this too-long post - partly to further dissect and partly looking for confirmation and maybe elaboration. I confess I'd welcome anyone going on about what my wife, her boyfriend or dinner-goers would have thought of her attending the event with him. Or have you had your own experiences of being outed? By the way, I forgot to mention that I don't know if she mentioned being married. I'll save that question for her return.