Once a cheater, always a cheater?

Discussion in 'The Affair Zone - Cheating!' started by sirkyle6, Aug 3, 2010.

  1. altimer23

    altimer23 New Member

    once a cheater........

    my first wife cheated before and during our marriage. she got the thrill out of cheating. we still had a great sex life but that thrill was like a high for her. she told me about some of her flings before we were married and knew i got off hearing about it. she only told me about two times during our marriage, she talked in her sleep and would carry on a full conversation and have sex with me calling me some other guys name. that was some of the hottest fucking i've ever been involved in. guess i was an unintentional cuck. she also got off when i'd go down on her after she had been fucked. her pussy was perfect and i would have done just about anything just to be able to lick it. go with the flow (no pun intended), if you both get off on it, no problem.
  2. mandaryn

    mandaryn New Member

    In general, people doesn't change a lot during the years. So yes.. once cheater, always a cheater.
  3. fkmywfxn

    fkmywfxn Well-Known Member

    Some people can stop smoking or stop drinking. Sometimes it just takes that one cigarette or drink to get them going again. Unlike nicotine or alcohol, having sex with someone new is always exciting and never gets old. Your wife might love you but she loves new cock also.
  4. Mickle

    Mickle New Member Founding Member

    I would agree with mandaryn, my wife was cheating on her b/fs at school, and had a reputation locally as being easy, nothing has changed since we got married, she continues to cheat with not regret or conscience. I knew what she was like and accepted it, you will never change someone so either accept it or move on.
  5. joe_b

    joe_b Member

    My wife was married before me, and she cheated on him. She cheated on me when we were dating. My only choice was to let her be open about it or not be with her. I decided to stay with her and give her the freedom to be with other guys.
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  6. murph's

    murph's Member

    my vote and experience is once a cheater always a cheater.

    I am still finding out things that she did. She tells me parts or none at all but I eventually find out. She cheated on me when we were engaged - became the slut to her landlords son, along with about 14 other guys in a 4 year time frame. When we got married she stopped and then started up again. We tried the hotwife scene but she always reverted back to cheating. Recently she slept with her parents neighbor when she went to visit - how do I know? I called and her mother (my MIL) told me she was in the basement watching a movie with Tom and she didn't want to bother them. She is sexting a couple guys and I think she just had a fling with a guy from work at a union party.....so yep once a cheater always a cheater.
  7. joe_b

    joe_b Member

    My wife had cheated on her ex-husband and every boyfriend she ever had. She cheated on me and I decided to stay with her. It took some getting used to, but now I let her do whatever she wants and help her out in anyway possible.
  8. saturn

    saturn Super Moderator Staff Member

    murph's, are you ok with her activities?
  9. murph's

    murph's Member

    Yes very much so....she knows it too but doesn't like to share her lovers at all. She wants to cheat. I would prefer her sharing and letting me reclaim her pussy as mine....but beggars can't always choose.
  10. Mickle

    Mickle New Member Founding Member

    You just have to accept her lifestyle ! Enjoy
  11. Worth It

    Worth It Well-Known Member

    My wife gets so sexually charged from being with another guy (or woman, or couple) that when she gets home I don't have to ask to "reclaim her," she's ready to go. And I'm ready for sloppy seconds.
  12. veteranchild

    veteranchild New Member

    When someone cheats it's because they feel there not getting something from home so they go somewhere else where it's emotional or pure sexual. It shows that there's a communication problem that needs to be addressed. I agree with some one that said that there are no absolutes. But this might be part of or if not the problem with cheaters.
  13. Silverback

    Silverback Active Member

    That's the justification anyway. I'm going to allow that you are partially correct, but I would have to say that it's my theory that cheating is a sexual orientation or kink for some people. When I had been going with my ex, Brandi, for long enough to talk about past relationships, she confessed to having cheated on her ex. She rationalized the cheating by saying there were communication problems, that she was just more of a friend with the guy she cheated with, and that although they had a friendship that lasted for a few years, that she really only was friends with him, and didn't really have sex with him, except, oh, yeah, she did give him head once, oh, wait a minute, make that a few times. But was only a few BJ's, so in her mind it wasn't really cheating, and her ex made it happen, or something I don't get. Superficially prim and proper, she loves giving head and just plain gets off on cheating, even though she won't admit it to anyone, most of all herself. So when I heard this, of course cuck that I am, I had a surge of excitement! This girl I was dating was perfect for me! I told her that it was very understandable, and as a matter of fact, that every woman has the right to sexual freedom and fulfillment. I shared with her my cuckold kink soon after her cheating confession, and brought it up occasionally over the years. She told me that she wasn't comfortable with my kink, but that as long as I didn't cheat on her, she could accept me but not my kink. I was never quite able to convince her that I wasn't into cheating, but that it turned me on when the woman I was with slept around and didn't keep it a secret. I reassured her that my cheating was not in the cards. She didn't make too much of it, but she seemed happy to accept my confirmation. Flash forward ten years. We've been divorced almost two years. In her estimation everyone else is dishonest. But not Her. She is a victim. It turns out that I'm the last person in town to find out about her relationship with her male "friend", that it just so happens she got together with a week or two after I moved out. In other words, she had a hall pass but cheated anyway for years. The fact is that when there is a breakdown of communication, it's up to both parties to remedy the situation. I do think that when someone uses victim hood to rationalizes a behavior like cheating, they are not likely to see the error of their ways and are probably going to repeat it.
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  14. Worth It

    Worth It Well-Known Member

    In my case I was warned by the woman whom I was dating that she was bisexual and nonmonogamous (but not a cheater, she is totally honest). It really didn't affect me one way or the other, just a part of her and she is Worth It. Years later, we are still happily married and both nonmonogamous, although her much more than me.
  15. legshowcuck

    legshowcuck Well-Known Member

    definitely always a cheater...

    just try to enjoy the thrill...;)
  16. Worth It

    Worth It Well-Known Member

    crazyinvt is totally correct, and which goes to show that it is best to be totally honest and upfront about oneself early on, especially if one has any type of peculiarity. There is someone out there for everyone. Like even on our second date, and several weeks before we first had sex (Audrey doesn't fuck until she knows someone well), Audrey pretty much set out her situation - bisexual, multiple lovers, having lived with a married couple. So by the time we started fucking, I knew what I was getting into, literally.

    The only question is whether my wife qualifies as a slut. She has boyfriends and girlfriends, but they are regulars and she hasn't slept with many people, just keeps the good ones.

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