Not all women can be open about it

Discussion in 'The Affair Zone - Cheating!' started by Worth It, Sep 13, 2018.

  1. Worth It

    Worth It Well-Known Member

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  2. Bartleby

    Bartleby Well-Known Member

    thanks for the link. I think my wife may fall into this category. If we wouldn't have agreed on me giving consent on her fornicating with other men, I can imagine that she would be cheating on me or have left me. We never had a sexless marriage, but I guess what I can offer to her is not good enough. She would never admit this to me, though. She claims to be content with me sexually, but i don't believe her. I have a problem getting and maintaining erection without viagra. With viagra, she has to wait until it kicks in. Either way, I hardly ever ejaculate due to intercourse. We don't even bother with condoms for that reason.

    I am happy that my wife is open about it. She has asked me for an open relationship maybe 3 years into our marriage and it is certainly better that we made that arrangement.

    Thus, I agree with the sentiment of the article. If the woman is not free to fornicate, a long term relationship is much more likely to break apart because both partners are not able to fulfil the unrealistic expectations of monogamous life.
     
  3. Worth It

    Worth It Well-Known Member

    My wife has left several men and turned down two marriage proposals because the guys expected monogamy. No single person, guy or woman, is sexually sufficient for her. It doesn't bother me, she has as much sex with me as I want, and she is Worth It. And Audrey has never cheated, she is totally honest with her lovers.

    Monogamy hurts a relationship more than it helps.
     
  4. elitetx91

    elitetx91 Member

    Alot of women out there aren't satisfied. Almost every woman i fuck has a husband/bf that isn't fucking them right. It works out for everyone, I fuck their brains out and they go home in a good mood to their SO.
     
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  5. Worth It

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    Agreed. Do you have a wife or girlfriend? Does she play around, as far as you know? In my wife's case, she has a husband and several lovers who are "fucking her right," but no one alone is totally satisfying. No one person can give variety.
     
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  6. elitetx91

    elitetx91 Member

    I'm single. Being single makes it easier to make time for them ;)
     
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  7. hankhavelock

    hankhavelock Well-Known Member

    It’s always awesome to hear things from the bull’s perspective. As a beta cuckold I’ve always had a natural awe and respect for the alpha bulls giving my wife so intense pleasure both physical and emotional.

    And this is exactly how my former wife viewed her extra curricular activities with other men. Her first hubby wasn't into being cuckolded, still her point was exactly that she would have her fun and come home fulfilled and happy. A true win-win.
     
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  8. murph's

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    My wife has permission to cuckold me but she likes to cheat more....she never tells me who she is flirting with or giving it up to and has stopped telling me about the sex even whence is with her formal BF. It hurts when she cheats but the excitement out weighs the hurt.
     
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  9. Worth It

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    My wife and I like to share everything, including details of sex with others.
     
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  10. murph's

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    Oh I like that too...but she doesn't. She prefers to keep it all to herself. Thats the thing, she will share about 10% of what happens and thinks that is enough, and thats usually after I obviously caught her talking or texting someone.
     
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  11. Sticky_Cuck77

    Sticky_Cuck77 Active Member

    I have wanted my wife to cuckold me for years with no luck. Although today I had a quick look at her text messages and there is a string with another man she used to work with, going back over a few years, where they arrange to meet for coffee, catch up etc. However, he is regularly asking my wife what she is going to be wearing, saying he likes her in a skirt, stockings and high heels. It may be relatively halmless flirting but as a wannabe cuckold this obviously made me very excited that she may have been cheating. I'd accept her cheating on me and keeping it secret, but obviously I'd like to know some details in order to get the vicarious pleasure from it. The trouble with text messages is you don't know if she's deleted the explicit ones. Here's hoping anyway.
     
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  12. Worth It

    Worth It Well-Known Member

    The most important thing is to make your wife comfortable having sex with others. Regardless of how excited you are, don't badger her with questions or requests for details. Most women, most people, would like to have a safe, secure and loving household, and be able to fuck around. If you think she's going in the right direction, don't press her for details, compliment her, take her to dinner, or on vacation; reward her for cucking you, the details will come later.

    See if your wife would be willing to go to dinner with you and her friend. It will show them how cool you are with it, and give you the opportunity to see the man who is fucking your wife looking at her with desire. And oh, let her know when you first propose the three way date that you will buy her something nice to wear.
     
  13. gwil1414

    gwil1414 Member

    I’ve told my wife many times (and tested her) that if she was looking for something else, some itch to scratch or adventure that I’d be game. To not do anything behind my back that she could do in front of me (and with my willful participation). Has not happened yet and may not ever. She says she needs a connection and I’m the one. The only one, but if it ever does......
     
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  14. michael1987

    michael1987 Well-Known Member

    About 3 months ago my beautiful wife divorced me and married my equally beautiful college-student best buddy. For the last 5 years, since he was 19, he has been living with her and me in a deliciously sexual menage-a-trois, manfully bare-backing her nightly with me lying beside them on our marital bed.

    He, like me, is ardently bisexual and still my versatile lover, one-on-one and mostly in private. At my ex-wife's urging I sometimes share with her intimate details of my love for my buddy (and vice versa) as she often does with me concerning him----naturally always with his consent.

    I gave my wife up to him gladly, knowing full well that for his growth to progress into the glorious manhood that is his birthright, he needed to take her for his wife, which he did with much grace and and many humbling expressions of sincere and enormous gratitude towards me. Naturally, I was Best Man at the wedding.

    Call it what you will---altruism, loving sacrifice, self-immolation or out-and-out masochism---it was the ultimate act of sharing everything of the highest value to me, including my love for him and my now ex-wife.

    Never for one instant have I regretted it.
     
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  15. Worth It

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    If you really want your wife to fuck other guys, you have to make her comfortable doing it, which means letting her do it her way - she chooses who, when, where (hotel or at home in your bed) and (especially at first) whether you are there or alone. It may be somewhat inbetween, you meet the guy and are nearby, but let them fuck alone, at least to start. Whatever makes her comfortable and gets her going.

    The total number of guys my wife has fuck is probably fewer than most women her age, and she doesn't fuck a guy until after about six to ten dates over a period of a month or so, but she has kept the good ones going for years. So she needs a "connection" to fuck a guy and the ones she likes have become true lovers. From my perspective, it's a good thing - I'd prefer she have sex with guys that care for her rather than just see her as a cum dump to be kick to the curb afterwards. (She's into women too, and it's pretty much the same with them. Three of the four guys she screws are married, and she and the wives are licking each other too.)
     
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  16. michael1987

    michael1987 Well-Known Member

    All well and good, Worth It. Particularly as your wife appears to develop "connections" with her many lovers that are based on true love.

    I count myself lucky that my wife (now my ex-wife) has never hankered after or physically entertained more than two lovers; those being me and my young buddy---her new husband.

    I think I'm too possessive in Love to tolerate more than one rival for my woman. Or my man:p

    That said, for my part I play the role of Bull occasionally for baby-wanting couples (mostly infertile ones) most of whom get to sincerely love me and enjoy me very much sexually.

    Thankfully my buddy is too busy with my ex-wife to resent my occasional wanderings away from him.
     
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  17. gwil1414

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    Good response and thank you. We have talked about it. I have told her I would be open to her having some fun, but it’s a couples activity to me. I don’t want my wife dating other men and having relationships with them or seeing them without me present. She is far to valuable to me and our family. I value the family unit and will not risk losing her because the other side of the coin is she could think I don’t care about her or our relationship and I could lose her. I’ll never jeopardize losing her for that type of a thrill.

    I don’t and would not worry about a man using her as a “cum dump” because I would be there. And it would be discussed beforehand, and respect for her and me would be required because the second it was not is the moment it would be over. Up to and including me pulling the guy off her and and handing him his clothes at the door. It just would not happen that way. No one is fucking or making love or whatever to my wife in our bed either with my consent. That would be off limits. It would be an experience or experiences for us both to enjoy, together, where the male is a sexual enhancer and object that happens to be a person.

    As I have said before, whatever makes people comfortable, but it has to be agreed upon and something where both parties get what they want out of it. I’d never want to be that guy waiting at home for pictures or texts or a call. Wondering, worrying if I may some day lose her to someone else. Not for me.
     
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  18. Worth It

    Worth It Well-Known Member

    Thanks for your reply. I came here initially to find out if any other guy was in in the same situation as I am. I was surprised to see that there are others, but all have variations in the way it happens. I appreciate the civil discussions we have.

    That's understandable. In our case, my wife had her "reationships" with men and women established before we met (she lived with the one couple for two years as a third).

    Interesting on how the opposites converge. I won Audrey as my wife because I accepted her and her activities (they were relationships, not "thrills," although she does want the sex). That's why she married me and won't leave me.

    Very understandable. And I'm sorry that I used such a crude term to describe a potential situation. In our case, as we got serious in our relationship, we decided that it would be best for me to meet her lovers. Not only did each of them treat Audrey with the utmost respect, but treated me deferentially as well and with some envy that I was the one marrying her. You are rigth to insist upon respect for both of you. You are sharing something of tremendous value.

    She will only love you all the more for giving her a happy home AND letting her explore her sexuality. Enjoy the journey.
     
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  19. gwil1414

    gwil1414 Member

    One day I will have to learn how to multi quote like that. :). I appreciate your response. I think it is really awesome how you met, knowing more now. When my wife and I met she played herself off as a little lore adventurous than she really is. She has had a few fun adventures and it was no secret I was open to some play but as our relationship developed she shut that door. She has said she does not want to jeopardize anything, etc and only wants to be with me. I love that, and think it’s great but at the same time it’s frustrating.

    The true love of a good woman is so amazing though that her happiness is my everything.

    You need not apologize for the term, I know what you meant and that you had no ill intent in the use of the phrase but appreciate it.

    Thanks again and Happy New Year to you and Audrey!! May it be filled with all you are looking for in the next turn around the sun.
     
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