Your correct....... it is what she likes. It's kind of difficult to explain, but we both feel the same about the act of her getting fucked by other men. Neither of us think of her getting fucked by other men as "making love"...... She and I "make love". Neither of us thing of it as "having sex"....... She and I "have sex". We don't even think of it as her fucking them. We look at it one way only........... They "fuck her". Or she lets them "fuck her". I know it's just the wording, but for both of us, she has to be the one getting fucked. The man has to be the one "fucking her" I don't know........ maybe its a dominance thing (but i doubt it).