I feel like a loser sometimes

Discussion in 'Emotional Support' started by bricbat, Apr 17, 2017.

  1. bricbat

    bricbat Guest

    Do you ever feel like a loser in your wife's life? Like she has a lot more fun when you're not around her? As if she behaves herself in your presence but then lets loose and relaxes when she's on her own?

    I do. She aggressively sought out fun, thrills, and excitement (parties, sex, activities, concerts, you name it) right up until we started dating. Then she decided she needed to settle down if she wanted to hold on to me. In the beginning, it wasn't always easy and she had to consciously pass up opportunities. How do I know this? She told me. She told me that when we started dating she knew it was time to settle.

    I think she's still that other person at heart. She's not resentful of me (I'm resentful of myself), but it's pretty clear that that other person can't stay buckled in all the time. Around me, she's a proper suburban wife with a career. But around her friends and others, she's a lot more like the woman she was before me.
  2. bricbat

    bricbat Guest

    And the freaky part of it is that it turns me on and makes me horny.
  3. michael1987

    michael1987 Well-Known Member

    Never mind. I'm sure the fantasies and other uncontrollable thoughts that come to mind and you get off on when you are fucking her more than compensate you for all the sexual anguish your wife is giving you. Embrace it.
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  4. bricbat

    bricbat Guest

    ;) All three or maybe four times a year that it happens. . . .:p
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  5. tractorman

    tractorman Well-Known Member

    its sad you feel like that what would you like her to be like? I think you describe most women but as your on this site you must desire something extra but remember your wife is like most so maybe you should be happy with what you have. life is complicated certainly as you think this way I cant see how this site will help you emotionally id recommend trying to excit her make love more if you can take her places get out of the rut your in perhaps a concert or maybe a party. If there is little chance of her being a hotwife your torturing yourself looking here. IMHO
  6. christinebitg

    christinebitg Well-Known Member

    Most people can't change as much as they think they can. That's probably true for her too.

    However, I'm not sure that I agree with you that she doesn't sometimes resent you for it. That's based on other things you've posted.

    What is it about it that turns you on the most?


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  7. bricbat

    bricbat Guest

    I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. :( I've spent nearly my whole life trying to figure it out. I have always had a really strong sexual attraction to the idea of being cuckolded by the women who are closest to me. :oops:
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  8. UCUM666

    UCUM666 Well-Known Member

    Don't beat yourself up over it. It's pretty typical in my opinion. Girls just want to have fun (as the song goes), and guys do their best to live up to the fun expectations of women in the beginning. Unfortunately, many relationships eventually fizzle, guys don't live up to their woman's expectations; guys get bored of their woman; it's a pretty typical event for most (not all) couples. I've noticed myself in past relationships, that after the first year or so excitement wears off, some of this fantasy stuff starts to surface, I suppose to keep things interesting. Cuckolding to me is one of a number of sexual scenarios I find very exciting. It allows us males not to have to compete or expend so much energy trying to "entertain" the woman. I mean really, can't we all just admit that for many of us guys getting a little older, it gets old trying to be the dominant aggressor? I'm at that point where I'd be content watching her get satisfied, while I take the observationists chair. I don't think you should feel you're a loser bud. It's a path many men in relationships naturally follow.
  9. rocketman

    rocketman Guest

    Well, there you have it... you said that when she met you she told you that she knew it was time to settle. You provide her with the stability she needs. You get to enjoy her opening up and having fun as a woman and get turned on by her sexuality. You said you have a really strong attraction to being cuckolded by your wife. That makes you a winner. You give her the ability and freedom to fully embrace her sexuality, something that you clearly enjoy and satisfies you in a positive way . If there's something more you would like in your relationship with your wife, and then express it to her and see where that takes the both of you.
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  10. DeannaHouston

    DeannaHouston Well-Known Member

    I agree.

    Bricbat, Everyone does change and grow. I sometimes feel bad that I am so tired and am going to bed at 8:00. I also see how I am not as young or carefree. As we age and become responsible there is more weight on our shoulders. And when your wife is with old friends or me when I am fucking others....I get a break...I just enjoy....The fuck toy doesn't have any baggage or responsibilities.

    You are not a loser, you are an adult.
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  11. legshowcuck

    legshowcuck Well-Known Member

    when i look at Her, i feel pride, love...

    i am the luckiest guy in the world, far from being a loser...

    oh when She is in the mood and playing, She can make me feel like the biggest loser in the world...:)
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  12. Shambler

    Shambler New Member

    It sounds to me that she didn't only decide it was time to 'settle down'. She decided it was time to settle down with YOU. Clearly you bring things to the table that she loves, appreciates, and needs - I'd take peace of mind out of that if I were in your shoes.......and I'd bed her a lot more ;-)
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  13. waynerobertson

    waynerobertson Well-Known Member

    Losers are often winners. In bric's case he admits it turns him on and excites him. That makes him a winner. His wife gets fucked and he gets to be turned on and excited. Many cucks are winners when they watch the wife/gf get fucked and/or gets to clean her when she gets home.

    Added bonus is when pictures are sent by the Bull to the cuck.

    It excites me when I am asked to take a pic of her while I am doing her doggy and he sees my handprint on her ass cheeks and sees my cock slowly disappearing in her pussy. I find out later the cuck stroked and came while looking at the sent pictures.
  14. bricbat

    bricbat Guest

    Last night, my wife and the ladies were talking about guys. While I was sitting right next to my wife, she said to her friends, "I dunno. If I were to choose again, I might go for a Hispanic guy."

    I'm about the furthest thing you can be from a Hispanic guy.

    Later on, I was giving her a foot rub and feeling very horny and submissive (she was pushing all the right buttons) and I couldn't help but say to her my feelings about my submissiveness and how she needs a true lover, etc.

    For her part, she was supporting and encouraging. She said she loves me, and wants me to feel comfortable expressing my feelings and said it's good for me to understand myself.

    She said I could have a "present." And she started to masturbate me with her hand, but even though I felt very excited I couldn't get hard because I also felt incapable of satisfying her. Eventually she stopped and consoled me and told me it's o.k. for me to be me and I don't have to apologize.
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  15. Pathedick

    Pathedick Well-Known Member Founding Member

    VERY observant and Well stated. I was thinking the Same thing.
  16. Pathedick

    Pathedick Well-Known Member Founding Member

    I Hope you Thanked her and added that you were Very OK with her being who She is.
  17. canadianwittol

    canadianwittol Well-Known Member Founding Member

    Whether you call it self-doubt or "cucky angst", or what have you, I think we're all prone to this feeling once in a while.

    Obviously, I enjoy my wife's dalliances as much as she does, but running in the opposite direction of 4,000 years of Judeo-Christian culture has its effect on me sometimes. Not long ago I was lying on my couch, listening to the sound of my wife's lovemaking coming from the next room and I admit, sometimes, for a moment, I think to myself what kind of man is happy to allow his wife to make love to another man?

    Or the odd time that my wife's best friend makes an amused observation regarding my cuckolding I think to myself why do I allow myself to be mocked in this way?

    But it passes. I know we are both happy with our lifestyle and my wife's friend doesn't truly think of me as a loser, she just enjoys the irony of our unusual relationship and in laughter reminds us of why we adhere to such relatively strict privacy. Even our bull, despite the fact that he enjoys making some humbling remarks in my direction, has expressed how much he truly likes us. From time to time, he and I even share a drink together.

    It's white noise; fleeting self-doubt you have to recognize for what it is and dismiss. It isn't healthy to think of yourself as a "loser" - even if you have a humiliation fetish.

    You must discard this notion.
  18. michael1987

    michael1987 Well-Known Member

    You ask "What kind of man is happy to allow his wife to make love to another man?".

    Ask yourself the question again next time you are masturbating yourself blind to the beautiful sounds and sight of your wife being made love to by a man younger, stronger and way spunkier than you.

    The answer will come, but remember not to over-analyse it lest you spoil the incredible pleasure of the Moment.
  19. canadianwittol

    canadianwittol Well-Known Member Founding Member

    Who ever said my wife's lover is younger?
  20. Pathedick

    Pathedick Well-Known Member Founding Member

    Exactly, as I stated, Very early in my Cuckold Life Thread describing my 3 Decades as a Cuckold. Although I am VERY Submissive SEXUALLY, I am competitive in pretty much all other aspects of my life. Therefore pretty much the Only Sexually Degrading name I do not like is " Loser". I am NOT a Loser, I'm very smart, successful with a Very Well paying, though STRESSFUL job and have even been Successful in 2 sports ( including coaching). I'm just a Pathetic fuck for a Woman.
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