Nov. 4th marked my ninth anniversary as a cuckold. November 4th, 2009 was the first time my wife was unfaithful to me and with 13 different men over the last 9 years she has been consistently unfaithful ever since, all with my total acquiescence. I was reflecting this past weekend on how this has changed her though. I don't mean this in a bad way, just acknowledging how different her perspective on it has become. At first, we had mutually agreed that what happens in our bedroom isn't anything that anyone else needs to know about. When I first asked my wife if she had anyone in mind as a lover, 9 years ago, she said yes...there was a co-worker who routinely hit on her and she happened to find him attractive as well. Better still, (although not demonstrating much concern for HIS wife) he was married and thus assumed to have the incentive to be reasonably discreet himself. Likewise, rather than approach him and explain to him that we were into cuckolding, we both mutually agreed that it would be easiest for everyone if he was left with the impression that Alice was simply cheating on me; a fact that was a source of great delight to him given that Alice and I had been married for less than two months at that time. Our initial assumption about his own desire for discretion turned out to be true. That affair lasted for five years. And for five years this was the ONLY man who cuckolded me. It was so convenient that there really wasn't much need to look elsewhere. He was (relatively) discreet although their coworkers were quick to realize what was going on and their affair was well known there. That made office Christmas parties difficult for me, but that's another story. When that affair ended, my wife began the process of finding another lover. She didn't hurry into that; she took her time but also seized advantage of a few opportunities that came her way. She slept with a couple of clients, with a personal trainer, and a few others. Again, every lover she took was under the impression that I was oblivious to my wife's infidelity. This created problems too -- believe it or not, many men aren't comfortable being the other man in an affair. Or they would be initially (i.e. until they succeeded in having sex with my wife) but wouldn't wish to make it ongoing, whether for fear of retribution on my part, or moral tendencies, or whatever. Finally, two years ago, my wife decided that she needed to find a more efficient way of finding men who are into being, essentially what we here call "bulls". She decided to open an Ashley Madison account - and while she was not open about cuckolding on her profile, she at least cut right to the source of dealing with men who knew full well that she was married. That's how we met one of her current bulls and the one who has easily been her favourite. Well...as luck would have it he had actually been involved with two previous cuckolding couples. So when we agreed that Alice could make confession to him about the truth of our relationship (a first for us) it all came out. I won't carry on too much farther here about details of how this relationship has played out; but for a first time my true status was made known to one of her lovers. In the Spring of 2017 we completed a recreational property in a remote area which gave us the unique opportunity to name the road it was on (as our property was the only one on the road). It was our bull who suggested we name it as an homage to our lifestyle...it is so far out of town that this would almost certainly never cause our lifestyle to ever be revealed ; more of an opportunity to enjoy our own inside joke than anything. I very reluctantly agreed to this but the real shock to me in all of that discussion was how enthusiastic my wife was about it. I believe in reflection that this was to to thrill her bull, who has made no secret of the enjoyment he derives out of humiliating me. And so we do indeed own a small property on "Cuckold Lane". Every time we drive up there now I feel a small knot in my stomach as I slow to turning speed and make a left on a street we have named after me. (Interestingly, my wife disputes that - she says the name isn't the noun that refers to me, it's the verb that refers to her "making" a cuckold of me.) In the past year, as a result of a slip of the tongue, another friend of Alice's became aware of our relationship as well. And then this past Spring, she decided of her own accord to tell yet another friend. I have expressed some concern at that but she assures me very strongly that a) they are all supportive of our relationship, b) people think it's cool and interesting and c) they all understand the need to keep this quiet. I do trust her opinion on this, but it's made me realize: For five years, my wife carried on an affair with one man. During that whole five years, she had one lover and one friend who knew about the arrangement. In four years since, my wife has slept with an additional 12 men, told additional friends about it, and with the naming of our "street" I realize she feels much more open and confident about it. And from her perspective why not, the other women she talks to think that its cool and kinky she exercises such control in our relationship. However I can't help but feel a little foolish when I'm in the company of people who know all about this. My wife says it's simply not an issue. But to be honest in moments of deeper introspection I realize that even if I've been a cuck almost a decade, it's only in the past four years that so many more people have become aware of our situation, and that's started to make me nervous. Just as you can't put toothpaste back in the tube, people can't "unlearn" that I'm a cuckold. I'm happy that my wife is more and more confident. She has even said she's sorry she wasted the first 5 years of the freedom of a cuck marriage on just one lover. I think as she gets up in age toward 40 and with her increased confidence in our relationship that she has every intention of seeing multiple lovers from now on as well as occasionally embracing one night stand opportunities. I'm just let wondering how this changes things for me. Or does it? Any thoughts?