Is it cerebral? Does she take something away from you? Like a hobby, television, bowling night? Is it sexually related? Does she take you over the knee and go to town on your hide? Is it something related to cuckolding? Maybe she lets you watch and then takes that away. Is it more extreme? She tells you to turn around as she tightens the strap-on around her waist. :color: -- I guess the other question is: What is punishment? What purpose is it serving? If the punishment is for our satisfaction it takes on a completely different meaning then when our wives are really pissed at us. We husbands tend to think of punishment as spanking, caning, scolding, etc. But is that really an effective way for our strong wives to maintain order? Iâ€™ll give a few examples in our marriage. There was a post I wrote a few months back detailing Jâ€™s first time administering physical punishment on me. I had been late earlier that day to meet her and her family. I left them waiting for about 20 to 30 minutes. That night I got my first thrashing with a wooden spoon while my wife had me by the hair and carefully dictated what I had done and how it would NEVER happen again. Punished For Being Late Was it humiliating? Yes. Was it painful? Yes Was it effective in achieving an end result of me being on time? Yes. Now the second scenario is more recent. As is with everything else, my wife controls the finances. There are more reasons for this than just another way for me to be subservient. Money burns a whole in my pocket before it even gets in my pocket. J is way more restrained and organized. So you can understand why I have to ask permission any time I want to buy something. I have to say the amount I need, when Iâ€™m planning on buying it, etc. Recently I went out and bought a few books without asking my wife first. The result of this was something just as painful as a hard smack on the ass. J took away my privilege to buy coffee in the morning. â€œWhat!?!â€ You say. â€œThatâ€™s pathetic!â€ You say. â€œThat doesnâ€™t hurt as much as a strap!â€ You say. Oh, but for me it does. I work from a home office and one of the greatest little pleasures I have is going out to a local coffee shop, talking to the regulars, the people behind the counter, and getting a cup of coffee. Itâ€™s a little ritual that helps me start my day. So when J takes that away for two weeks. (Of which Iâ€™m still serving.) It hurts - A LOT! Was it humiliating? Yes. Was it painful? Yes. Was it effective in achieving the end result of me ALWAYS asking permission to spend money? ABSOLUTELY! So which is more effective? Or are they just two different sets of tools for wives to use?