I pose this question because we had a lengthy discussion about this last night. This may sound like a penthouse letter although I hope with my track record of four years' worth of postings here that it can be taken at face value; besides we are not stridently committing to this course of action, it is just a thought: The background is that, as I am about to finish my eighth year on staff in a tenure-tracked position at a well known University which I love working at, I am now in the position where I, or one of my up to four colleagues are going to be selected for one tenure position in the coming year. This process will require a number of stages, some of which have been done. The penultimate stage is the endorsement of the Dean. If I were not chosen, this could potentially pose a huge problem. There is only one other real bona fide University in my city, so failing to secure tenure could mean that I have to move. This problem is compounded further by the fact that my wife is in the real estate business and thus if we did move, she would have to give up her book of clients and start over, which is not a thrilling thought for either of us (she actually makes more money than I do...in fact, substantially more.) So we have ruled out moving away as an option...however, if I do not secure tenure I could effectively face the prospect of unemployment or the need to transition into another career. To my utter and complete shock, my wife actually floated the idea to me of offering to have sex with the dean if it would help to influence his decision. She has met him before and while she doesn't find him attractive, she doesn't find him unattractive. If it meant my securing the job that I want and us not having to move, she told me in all seriousness that she'd be completely absolutely willing to do it. I don't post pics of my wife to this forum, but if you googled the actress Nina Dobrev, my wife looks somewhat similar. In fact they are both from the same city of Sofia, Bulgaria, although my wife is seven years older. I have no doubt at all that if she made an overture to this man, he would very likely take her up on it. Likewise, I think it very likely that if they did complete this transaction, that it may make my tenure likelier. It feels somewhat immoral and wrong to me, as though I am literally whoring out my wife. In her practical, Eastern European way of thinking though she says "if we get what we want, what difference does it make?" It reminds me of a scene in Othello where Emilia counsels to Desdemona "who would not make her husband a cuckold in order to make him a monarch?" The possible negative consequence to this of course is that I would have regular, full-time employment working for a man who has cuckolded me. I think given the current tenor of concern regarding sexual harassment, etc. on university campuses that he probably would be very discreet and could be relied upon not to boast of his conquest (were this to in fact happen) given the potential negative ramifications. However, even if my wife comes on to him in a way as to give him the impression that I don't know about the tryst, he will still always know he has bedded my wife. The reality of this situation and our refusal to move from the beautiful city of Vancouver has led us to consider this as a serious option. And so, I ask of the forum does anyone else, and I ask very seriously, have any experience with this? I don't want to hear a bunch of jack off fantasies, I want the truth: are you glad you did? Did you regret it? My wife is willing to do it and basically says it's up to me. She has no desire to make me the laughingstock of campus and so if I am ultimately uncomfortable with it she will not do it. If I don't get tenure, we would have to move or I would have to face unemployment and that is a horrible option. If my wife sleeps with this man and secures my employment, not much will really change. He would become the 12th man to cuckold me since our marriage so it's not like we're giving away her innocence here. Despite the very real and ever-present risk of living with the day-to-day humiliation of working for a man who has cuckolded me, I am thinking very seriously about endorsing this idea. Making inviting him out to dinner with my wife and excusing myself to make a phone call, letting them chat, etc. Anybody care to weigh in?