Family and friends knowing

Discussion in 'Controversial Issues' started by wimpyguy7, May 6, 2018.

  1. wimpyguy7

    wimpyguy7 Guest

    How would you feel about your friends, neighbors or family members knowing that you're being cuckolded? How would you handle it if it happened? I'd love to be messaged by anyone who's experiencing this situation or who wants to.
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  2. canadianwittol

    canadianwittol Well-Known Member Founding Member

    My wife has two friends who know that I have been cuckolded for almost 9 years.
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  3. wimpyguy7

    wimpyguy7 Guest

    Does it enhance your experience of being a cuckold to be around them? Do they just think it's an open marriage or do they know that you actually get off on the humiliation of her being unfaithful?
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  4. michael1987

    michael1987 Well-Known Member

    Please message me about this one too. My wife and I have handled this several times with different close relatives of mine and hers, as well as close friends of ours, with great success and only mild embarrassment for my young Afro-American best buddy who has been the live-in lover of my wife for the last 4 years and fathered two obviously mixed-race beautiful boys for her. In public I'm as proud of their boys as he is---and of him too for his fertility and physical attractiveness and publicly easily appreciated sexual drive with my wife.
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  5. Bartleby

    Bartleby Well-Known Member

    We are still friends with the guy that had a fling with my wife last year, and my wife has told two of our friends about it. I quite like it. I think it shows a strength in character to be tolerant about your wife having sex with other people. It makes me feel my wife is sexually open and just a horny woman. I like the feeling socialising with people knowing that they are aware that I am a willing cuckold. I wish my wife would tell more people; I am not allowed to tell anyone who has any contact with my wife. People knowing about it also facilitates the possibility of my wife finding a new partner.
  6. canadianwittol

    canadianwittol Well-Known Member Founding Member

    Does it enhance the experience; I would say yes absolutely. Once it's "out there" even to a contained group of people, the reality of your situation becomes apparent. There's a variety of ways once can react to a cuckold; they might be sexually open people who think it's cool, they might be of a religious view and think it's disgusting, and then there is the more or less traditional reaction as recorded in Chaucer, Shakespeare and Moliere - simply that people find it amusing.

    I'm not personally someone who really enjoys being humiliated, but when you realize that others are taking enjoyment at your being a cuckold, I realized I was being humiliated whether I liked it or not. I can choose to ignore it of course, but I can't attempt to shape others' opinions of me: if they consider me as being some sort of fool, then vis a vis that person, I have little choice but to learn to live with the fact that I am diminished in that person's eyes. This is how I have felt around her co-workers when I have mingled with them, knowing that most of her co-workers were aware of a long-term affair she was carrying on with another man in her office. It's like I knew I was the butt of a lot of jokes but had to pretend like I didn't know.

    As a result, we are very, very careful about who we tell. As I said, it's really just two friends of my wife, although this does not count any of the men she has taken as lovers, or the co-workers from her old office.

    One of the two, her best friend, does enjoy teasing me about being a cuckold from time to time, although in a lighthearted and playful way. She has actually said a number of times that she really admires me for giving this freedom to my wife and thinks I am a wonderful husband. But she does still enjoy teasing me a little from time to time, and I take it all in stride knowing that down deep she really respects me as a friend.

    The other however is quite a bit younger and was shocked at first to learn that I'm a willing cuckold, and not only that but that I have been one for almost a decade while remaining steadfastly faithful to my wife. She has a somewhat more "traditional" view and while nothing has ever been said explicitly, my wife has sheepishly admitted that this second friend finds the whole situation very entertaining and more or less thinks I'm a wimp; or in her words, a "rogonosets" or a man who wears horns. (she's Ukrainian). A few months ago, she introduced a young Russian man to my wife with whom she hit it off and has been seeing.
  7. christinebitg

    christinebitg Well-Known Member

    Oh, how nice! :)


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  8. canadianwittol

    canadianwittol Well-Known Member Founding Member

    Indeed it has been, he is a nice young man; exactly what she was looking for since her favourite bull moved about 4 hours away from us last year. She only gets to see him about once every 4-6 weeks so it's been fun for her to have another guy she can see on a more or less weekly basis.
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  9. michael1987

    michael1987 Well-Known Member

    "A nice young man, exactly what she was looking for".

    Might that by any chance have been a romantic single guy with a fine gymnast's body, a huge white-shafted red-headed Russian fast-erecting super-satisfying cock, overfull balls and excellent fucking skills? I hope so, for your wife's sake.
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  10. verkitwme

    verkitwme Well-Known Member

    My best friend knows .....
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  11. Worth It

    Worth It Well-Known Member

    Good point. There is no humiliation for me in Audrey having lovers. The guys are respectful, and especially the single guys are envious that Audrey is my wife. This feeling must be true because the married guys eventually got to the point where they're cool with me fucking their wives.
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  12. canadianwittol

    canadianwittol Well-Known Member Founding Member

    I don't feel humiliated by my Alice having lovers either. Except for the fact that I know some of them take a huge satisfaction out of having fucked my wife. Some of them I know have very little respect for me as a man willing to standby and allow myself to be cuckolded. In that sense I do feel a certain sense of humiliation knowing that I am lesser at least in their eyes.

    I argue you can't really separate humiliation from cuckolding...if other people are taking enjoyment out of your situation in a way that they are either literally or figuratively laughing at your expense, whether to your face or behind your back, then I am cognizant of the fact I am being humiliated whether I wish to acknowledge it or not.

    In all my studies of centuries' worth of literature, I have never come across any variation of the phrase "Mr. Smith was a highly respected cuckold..."

    So while I don't feel humiliated at my wife taking lovers either...the fact is that when one of her lovers sits down with his friends in a bar somewhere and boasts to them that he's been banging this gorgeous married woman while her cuckolded husband agreeably waits down at the local pub for her to text that she's finished, I know that the laughs and high fives he's getting from his friends most likely don't translate to their admiration for me, but more likely represent their approval at his asserting himself into our marriage as the alpha male while I accept, at least temporarily, the beta status without complaint.

    My wife has even confessed that some, though certainly not all, of her lovers enjoy bedroom talk about how she needs their cock because "your husband is a pussy/wimp/bitch, etc."

    Like me, my wife doesn't get off on humiliating me in any way...but she will happily play along for a lover who does. She would not admit that for a long time, but is comfortable telling me that now, assuring me that she doesn't mean any of those things but that she does love to indulge the fantasies of men who enjoy that kind of bedroom talk.

    When she first confessed to a lover asking her in bed "who's better, me or your husband?" I naively asked "And what do you say?" She looked back sarcastically and said "during the middle of sex, what do you think I say?"
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  13. Bartleby

    Bartleby Well-Known Member

    I would ask my wife to stop having sex with such men. Not because I would feel humiliated, but because I would feel they do not deserve the privilege of having sex with her. I would be disappointed that my wife does not have higher standards. I hold such dickheads in such low esteem that I would not feel touched by their idiotic boasting. I would rather feel sad that my wife goes along with it.

    I have accepted the fact that other men are better in bed than I am. That is why I feel my wife should have sex with them and should not be restricted to monogamy. People who don't get that and think I am below them and there is reason and joy in publicly humiliating me should not be part of my or my wife's life.
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  14. canadianwittol

    canadianwittol Well-Known Member Founding Member

    I wouldn't want my wife to avoid seeing the men with whom she has some of her best sexual chemistry over my ego. She could easily lie to me about what they say and do, but she tells me the truth. And I know she doesn't believe in any of it.

    While I don't enjoy humiliation I likewise know that I cannot demand the respect of the men who make me a cuckold.
  15. Bartleby

    Bartleby Well-Known Member

    Ok, you also got a point there. You don't want to make your wife feel bad about her toy boys. You trust her that she does not believe in the idiotic ideas that some of them may have, so that is ok then, too. You can keep the distance to those men so you don't need their respect.
  16. goodguy30

    goodguy30 New Member

    several of my wifes friends and family know....... a few of my friends know.. I like them knowing for sure
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  17. Worth It

    Worth It Well-Known Member

    This isn't universally true. How could it be then that the two married couples with whom my wife plays eventually asked me to also fuck their wives? Even her single guy lovers have expressed to me their admiration of me having married Audrey.
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  18. canadianwittol

    canadianwittol Well-Known Member Founding Member

    I didn't quite claim it was a universal truth. I'm speaking in generalities, and in general I do believe what I'm saying is true.

    If it weren't, why would the infidelity of the spouse be such a common comedic device in film and TV, dating all the way back to the Bard's time. Not everyone - but many, will take their jollies at a man whose wife is stepping out.

    If you have found partners who are more on your wavelength and in whom this generality does not apply, I certainly say more power to you!
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  19. Ilovemywife

    Ilovemywife Member

    My wife would be mortified if she thought for a second that anyone knew that she had for 30 years kept a lover outside of our marriage. Of course reality is that a few people know but I keep that to myself and let her enjoy being oblivious.
    It’s almost impossible to keep that kind of secret from everyone.
    I don’t deny it when asked but most people are too polite to bring it up. Sometimes you see that suspicious look in their eyes.
    She doesn’t have many close female friends she could confide in and they aren’t the type that you could even if you wanted to.
    Our daughter knows and I only know that because she mentioned it to my wifes lovers daughter who asked her dad about it. Of course he denied it and dropped the subject. Then he called me right away. We both decided it was best to not tell my wife.
    I have no problem with other people knowing and I’m proud of her and our relationship. I don’t feel humiliated at all that some people know or suspect.
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  20. crazyinvt

    crazyinvt Active Member

    We have not been active for nearly 8 years. (she developed arthritis) so this is all in the past. Naturally, our friends that were fucking her back then know. It's possible, and I suspect, that our son-in-law knows. Nothing specific, just comments that he has made to me about wife sharing. I never had the courage to inquire whether his comments refered to something he may know or may have heard about us. Or whether he was insinuating that he may be sharing his wife (our daughter). Either way, I'm not sure I want to know the answer.

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