I count myself lucky to have seen my sexy wife with other guys, but it hasn't happened for about 8 years. For the past year I've been trying to make it happen again. There's been some progress, but it's been slow, and now I feel there's nothing more for me to do but wait and hope for an opportunity to come along. But I thought I'd share my plight and see if anyone has suggestions I haven't thought of. I'm 48 and she's 52, and we've been married about 15 years. A few years into our marriage we started swinging, and that evolved into me sharing her with other men. She had several, including a boyfriend for a couple years. That ended poorly and lead to a break that -- for a number of reasons, including health issues -- is still ongoing. For a while I would periodically ask about resuming, but eventually I gave up and accepted that that was part of our past. Then her health issue resolved, and she seemed to feel sexy again. She would drop occasional comments about guys she would like to fuck, and she even started up a flirtation with a contractor that she considered hopping in the sack with. (She didn't because it ended up not being a good situation.) I was pleasantly surprised and started to hope that we might get back into action. We would talk about it, and the idea always made her hot when we were in bed. Out of bed she'd find a variety of excuses not to do it -- she was no longer attractive, she didn't know of any good candidates, it just seemed like a bad idea. About a year ago it occurred to me that the prospect of setting something up was too stressful for her and that I could solve the problem by finding a guy and introducing them. So I got busy on a swinger site and set out to do that. I vaguely told her what I was doing and she did not object. I arranged for us to meet a prospect, and when I told her about it she seemed nervous but also excited and agreed to go. That meeting fell through because of a logistical snafu, and the guy lost interest, but I found another guy who we did meet for a drink. I'll have to finish soon.