Discussion in 'Methods, Techniques and Advice' started by alexandermarwoodcross, Aug 3, 2013.
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Have you ever considered asking her what she thinks she'd see if she watched you enjoying bisexual play? Would she picture you as the top or bottom or would it be in her minds eye more of a mutual pleasure of giving and taking? That could help you decide if you want her to watch.
She knows you're bi, you know she's now cuckolding you, you both want to watch each other having sex and you're both afraid to let the other watch or participate. Maybe you both should practice more communication about your naughty pleasures. It sounds like you're off to a great start.
true, I have not asked her what she thought my role would be if she was watching. I think I have missed out on an opportunity to ask because I told her. It would have been interesting to know that. Now that she knows her vision is blurred.
I told her that attitudes can change. So she can try again asking me to watch me have sex. Maybe it is possible. I will not pressure her into letting me watch her. That would just work into the opposite direction. As much as I want to watch, I have to respect her wishes.
How did she react when you explained that you enjoyed being sexually submissive to your male lovers? Hopefully it really excited her. Think how much fun it would be as you jointly look for a bimale lover that she can watch with you. Who knows, she might get so turned on that she joins in!
Of course you should never pressure her into something she's uncomfortable with. However she's excited by your bisexuality and desire to be cuckolded so she may slowly be warming up to the idea. Good luck!
I think she did not really like the idea of me being submissive at all. She also found it strange at first that I get enjoyment of her having sex with someone else. She just accepted it as part of my personality. And I guess because she understands that me wanting to be a cuckold makes the affair much easier, if not to say possible.
That is why I love our bullfriend's cock. Anyway I can please him to thank him for all the pleasure he gives my wife, and me watching, makes me want to please that cock so much. My wife and I talk at home about how we can please him more. She uses her hands on his cock, ass and balls while I suck his cock before we leave his place. His legs shake as he stands above us, and when he cums, he almost collapses. He always sleeps well after we serve our bullfriend.
My wife's bullfriend is not aggressive with her, but when he fucks my mouth, this turns her on. She actually cums without touching herself while watching us.
I gotta admit, sucking the cock of your wife's lover and getting fucked by him seems to be a perfect way to show your respect for the man who manages to sexually satisfy your wife.
I agree with that way of showing "respect" for the wife's lover---and one's excitement and pleasure at watching one's wife being fucked and satisfied by him.
My young buddy and I often suck each other's cocks in individual acts of threesoming with my wife. Both he and I always get hugely aroused by watching each other in loving foreplay with her, and of course when the other is fucking her.
That said, with both him and me being bisexual our love of each other's bodies and cocks is the predominant motivator of our cocksucking. But further to that my buddy does take my ardent and openly self-indulgent sucking of his still-hard cock as a mark of my huge admiration and deep appreciation for his having so beautifully loved and satisfied my wife first up.
Most of the Men I have Pleasured, as CiCi, Identify themselves as Straight, and a LOT of them are married.
For us, we tend to think less about labels and more about what makes us happy. I don't know if I'd ever have an emotion attachment to a guy or label myself bi but as a cuckold I know I'd do a whole hell of a lot if my wife and her boyfriend were to allow/want me to do. I gave up on the labels a while ago because it made me less willing to be open, explore and enjoy and more likely to question myself, have jealousy and not get what I know I really want. I will say, though, that before I would ever do something with another man, I would make sure he was comfortable with the situation just because I'd like to be comfortable if the shoe was on the other foot.
Your a wise individual
I thank you very much.
As I believe I've mentioned before. I want COCK, and I've taken the consequence and am now in a GAY cuckold relationship.
BUT I still don't want my partner's lover's cock at all - I want Dede's (my partner's) when I get it. I am honestly totally uninterested in his lovers' cocks. He obviously isn't, but admittedly I am. And this is exactly how I felt it when in a normative hetero-relationship with my former wife. Surely, we did tons of triangles (and we were good at it), but I never had any inclinations to get in touch with the bull-cock.
Ask me why not! I have no idea... ;-) I hope I don't insult anyone here
You're just not into Bulls/Men, you're into Women/Lady-boi's, is what I think you are saying. If so and since you are also into being a Cuckold, it would make you Very attractive Mate, to a Slutty Woman or Lady-boi (we do tend to be Sluts, it appears).
New here, so do not have background knowledge. I take it your spouse/SO is a male as you are. When he cucks you by having sex with other men, your excitement and lust is for his cock only. It is this man that you are totally devoted to.
You have no sexual interest in the other men he is involved with as he cucks you.
Do I have this correct?
I'm sure he will explain it better but in the meantime, his ex wife (woman) cuckolded him. He is now with a Lady-boi in Innonesisa who is cuckolding him, to his Delight.
(I having recently discovered his own Long trapped Lady-boi inside me. Though at my age Sissy Gurl fits better).
Thanks for clearing this up for me. I was going to say thanks, for setting me straight. But that could get confusing
Guys, thanks for your kind replies
I think that in my case my cuckolding fetish and my sexual orientation are separate – they don’t seem to have much to do with each other. As Pathedick mentioned, my first cuck-relationship was with a woman and my current is with a man – albeit a VERY feminine Asian gay man (I’ve shown picture elsewhere).
In my first cuck-marriage my x-wife had a substantial amount of lovers – sometimes we also did threesomes. Especially with one of her lovers, a wonderful guy who became a dear friend also outside the bedroom (and hot damn could we make her scream – no holes barred there In a threesome you can hardly be dick-shy, however, never did any kind of sexual action between her lover and me even occur in our minds. It wasn’t within our horizon so to speak. I guess it was kind of a swinging relationship including membership in a local and very active sex-club for like-minded people – quite awesome.
First of all, I’m of the firm belief that we’re born with our basic gender identity and sexual orientation – probably also our latent fetishes – however, some of these aspects may only be discovered under the right circumstances. When I moved to Southeast Asia a decade ago I decided to explore my obvious attraction to transgender women – aka ladyboys. And THAT was a roller-coaster ride sexually that brought me light years forward in my relationship/sexual experience. In other words, I was hooked. This developed further to also include feminine gay men who were not transgender per se but still VERY feminine. And that’s my status quo.
I never felt sexual attraction to masculinity – maybe in some leather-fetish sadomasochistic scenario fantasy, but it’s not something I’ve really pursued. I might, though – never say never
I’ll not get deeper into the fascinating aspects of transgenderism which I’ve amassed a vast both empirical and studied experience with at the time being – but I guarantee that that is also a deep area
I hope this casts a bit more light on my initial posting.
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