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Discussion in 'The Affair Zone - Cheating!' started by Saint Venus, Dec 18, 2017.

  1. Saint Venus

    Saint Venus New Member

    Hello everyone,

    I'm in a relationship for 3 year. I please my man in almost everything he ask for.

    Now, he wants me to fuck another man, I'm not sure how risky this is but is having permission from my man to fuck another man hope it doesn't mean he can fuck another woman because, I am not the want sharing he is.

    What do you think? Is my man looking now for opening the option of asking me later to fuck another woman?
  2. Bartleby

    Bartleby Well-Known Member

    you best ask him, we don't know.

    Probably not, it is quite likely that he just wants to enjoy the pleasure to know that you have sex with someone else.
    If he wanted some excuse to have sex with another woman, he is likely to choose another approach.

    If you intend to have sex with another man, please only do it if that is what you want to do, not because he wants you to do that. You should be the person who picks the lover. It is your body, your sex, you should be in charge.

    My wife asked me whether she could take a lover, I grudgingly agreed and learned that it was the best thing that could have happened for our relationship.

    What is most important is that you talk about all the issues involved in this. Improving the communication between partners is one of the benefits of the man becoming a cuckold.
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  3. capn.steve

    capn.steve Active Member

    I don't need to repeat it, Bartleby summed it up. I'll add that it may be a little more complicated than he lets on. Although your husband is turned on by the thought of you fucking other men, it's likely he hasn't come to terms with all of the feelings that are likely to come out if you do this. It isn't uncommon for men to get jealous, feel a sense of loss, mood swings when their wives accommodate this fantasy. At the same time, you may find that your taking a lover will be an amazing aphrodisiac for your husband. That jealousy can turn into sexual competition and increased arousal.

    Most guys like us will want to talk with our wives about things like guys she finds attractive, what in men turns her on, even if that happens to be qualities he is lacking, like maybe their attitude, looks, or even bigger dicks. Believe it or not, it's a turn on for most of us to find out our wives like getting fucked by bigger dicks than we have! And it's a big relief to find out that our wives can be open and honest about that with us, and talk about her lovers with us like we imagine she might do with her closest girlfriend. Other kinds of talk a cuckold might like to hear is talk about what kinds of clothing might be most attractive to other men, potential lovers, and even what kind of sexual activities you've engaged in with lovers, even (or especially) if you've never done those activities with your husband.

    If you decide to play along, remember to take care of your husband's feelings. Work out with him how far he's comfortable with you going. He's going to need some aftercare, and likely an outlet for his increased libido. He doesn't want to be abandoned, or cheat on you, but probably wants to share the experience of you getting more and better sex than he alone can give you. So if you go out and fuck another man, come home and tell your husband about it, what turned you on and maybe what the lover did that your husband never could. Don't expect him to be overjoyed, though, it's likely he'll appear to be hurt. Remind him that he's getting what he wants, and then remind him that he can't be replaced in your heart, that you love him and remind him why you need him.

    You don't have to run out and get fucked to see how this is going to go. You can do it little by little, gauging his reactions. You don't have do something you can't take back and might regret later. Some couples find out that entertaining the fantasy is enough. Others find out that they both get excited by their first steps and want more.

    If you have a co-worker or neighbor you find attractive, you could tell your husband. Ask him his feelings about you hooking up with that person. You might ask him to help you dress to get that person's attention. Most of us would be excited to hear our wife tell us about flirting with a potential lover. If he can't take it, you can stop anytime. If you get a positive reaction, you can decide whether to go further next time. Most cuckold men will be anxious for our wives to just jump right into fucking others, but don't take into account exactly what our wives would like. So do what makes you happy.

    I shared a similar fantasy with my wife. She had similar concerns to yours, but she'd heard of men like me, so it wasn't totally unbelievable to her. Eventually she realized I was sincere, but she wasn't interested in going out and meeting a stranger for sex. . At some point, I noticed the way she would look at and respond to my friend. It dawned on me she was attracted to him and flirting. She denied it at first, but when I persisted, she admitted that she did want him badly, but couldn't bring herself to make an advance. I told her that I would have a talk with him and invite him to enjoy her company. He couldn't understand my willingness to share my young wife, but when we invited him to our home, he found the opportunity irresistible.

    Although she claimed to be reluctant, I encouraged her to dress for seduction. They had their first intimate moments that night. To be honest, I was shocked to see how passionately my wife kissed with my friend, and even more shocked to find her sucking him off a little later. Afterwards, on she thanked me for giving her that wonderful evening.

    After that night, I didn't have to push her to invite him over. They met at our place again a few days later, and he took her out on a date and fucked her within a week . They had an affair that lasted close to two years, and we all got something out of it. My wife was getting sex from two guys, my single friend had his needs for NSA sex taken care of, and my libido went crazy.

    It may seem strange to you now, but for many husbands, there is nothing quite as exciting as seeing your wife getting ready for a date, knowing she is going to get fucked well and is going to come home satisfied.
  4. slowpoking

    slowpoking Well-Known Member

    Well said. So well, I have nothing to add.

    What else would you like to know, Venus? We'd love to help.
  5. Bartleby

    Bartleby Well-Known Member

    sadly the OP has not been online since asking the question. I wonder what the point of that is.
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  6. capn.steve

    capn.steve Active Member

    I guess I missed that
  7. Bartleby

    Bartleby Well-Known Member

    I keep an eye out
    I keep an eye out on things like that to avoid wasting time with serious anwers. I wanted to let you know so you don't spend more energy on this.

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