a slow time for my wife?

Discussion in 'Methods, Techniques and Advice' started by bricbat, Feb 9, 2012.

  1. bricbat

    bricbat Well-Known Member

    On the way home from work today I remembered that the local nature conservancy is holding a plant sale tomorrow. When I got home I told my wife all about it, but she said, "Tomorrow you have house cleaning."
    I reminded her that I got paid today and maybe after house cleaning I could...
    and she reminded me that we're trying to watch our expenses, and aside from that she needed some money because she was going out. :(
     
  2. Mickle

    Mickle New Member Founding Member

    Brilliant, she has her priorities right :D A new outfit no doubt
     
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  3. christinebitg

    christinebitg Well-Known Member

    Why are you asking for permission from this woman??

    xoxoxo

    Christine
     
  4. bricbat

    bricbat Well-Known Member

    Because she is my wife, I love her, and she as the head of our household she has that authority.
     
  5. christinebitg

    christinebitg Well-Known Member

    Bricbat, if you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten.

    If you want that, fine. I'm okay with that.

    Or do you just want to keep whining about it?

    xoxoxo

    Christine
     
  6. bricbat

    bricbat Well-Known Member

    I didn't realize I was whining. I'm sorry. I'll try not to from now on.
     
  7. Mickle

    Mickle New Member Founding Member

    Don't stop! that is what makes your posts so believably, and true to life. Your wife is in charge end of story
     
  8. bricbat

    bricbat Well-Known Member

    I'll try to do better job of expressing myself. A big part of my psyche is the link between painful jealousy and erotic jealousy. It's not an easy road for me to travel. My libido was, is, and probably will always be stoked by jealousy more than anything else. And jealousy without pain isn't jealousy, is it?

    A few days ago my wife was headed out to one of her meetings for the club. It was an organizational meeting to help get things underway for the summer months. I said something about going along. She asked, "Why?"

    I replied, "Because I think I ought to know what's going on."

    She answered, "You never go to these."

    That's not entirely true, and I went.

    I knew what it would be like before I even decided to go. I knew we'd get there and she'd start talking, conversing, discussing, flirting a little with one or two of the guys who always seem to seek her out, and I'd be standing two or three steps behind her. It would hurt and titillate.

    But if I didn't go, I'd feel like I was missing out on something, which can be a worse feeling.

    And that's exactly how it played out. Aside from driving her to and from, that was pretty much the extent of my involvement with her and them.
     
  9. bricbat

    bricbat Well-Known Member

    This morning while I was doing my Saturday chores my wife told me about a story she heard.

    A married man had a sex change. His wife stayed with him and explained why she stayed. At first she had left him and started dating, but commented about it: "You know how when you go out on a date, whether it's a good date or a bad date, the first thing you want to do when it's over is tell your best friend about it? He's my best friend."

    I wonder why she brought this up with me. I mean, I was doing housework while she read the morning paper, and we haven't had sex in ages and ages, but she does regard me as her best friend, and she's got this other social life that I'm not always privy to.
     
  10. Mickle

    Mickle New Member Founding Member

    Excellent bricbat you have resonated with a lot of guys
     
  11. bricbat

    bricbat Well-Known Member

    :eek:ccasion5: Thank you, Mickle.
     
  12. bricbat

    bricbat Well-Known Member

    Following up from last week's conversation with my wife, this morning she said something about how it would help if I were more communicative. She gave me some examples. For instance, "If I go out and have a good time, you're supposed to say encouraging things like, 'That's wonderful!' and 'I'm not surprised because you have such a great attitude!' and be supportive instead of just saying, 'That's nice.'"

    I replied with a laugh, "Well, my chromosomes don't work that way, and I'm certainly not going to get a sex change like that guy you told me about."

    She laughed, too, and added, "Oh no! I don't want you to do that. But you can learn how to communicate that way. Let's try working on having you be more like my best friend." So then she had me rehearse a couple lines.
     
  13. bricbat

    bricbat Well-Known Member

    It simply amazes me how desirable my wife is. I'm so proud of her. This weekend we had a big to-do with the club, a joint event with another organization, and it happened constantly--every time I was not at her side there was another guy sliding up to her to chat her up. And one of the "regular" guy who chats her up even broke the ice to talk to me for once. Of course, it was in the context of wanting for me to give her a message. That guy, he's got to have the hots for her. Even though for a while he was basically sitting right with us, while he was talking to her, he would interrupt himself-or her-and ask "did you get the text I just sent you?' Then they'd look at the texts and laugh. He was basically flirting with her simultaneously in real-life and via iMessage!
     
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  14. bricbat

    bricbat Well-Known Member

    I was out shopping with my wife this evening. I had dropped her off at the store then parked the car. We left the store, and she asked, "Where'd you park, baby?" Then caught herself and said, "Sorry. I didn't mean to call you that." She's never called me that once in our entire 20-something year relationship.

    It came out so naturally. Now I'm wondering, who's "baby?"
     
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  15. bricbat

    bricbat Well-Known Member

    Also, not long ago I overheard her talking to her sister, aunt, and my mother-in-law about clothes and bras. I was half paying attention, but then I heard my wife mention that one of her breasts is slightly larger than the other. She commented, "Guys always go for that one first."
     
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  16. bricbat

    bricbat Well-Known Member

    I haven't had much to post lately. It really does seem to be a slow time for my wife.

    Basically, what's been happening is more of a femdom relationship that sometimes involves other people. For example, there was a big party-picnic-festival that our club was involved with, that was a couple hours away. I did all the packing and driving, and was loaded with carrying all the stuff (pop-up tent, coolers, chairs, etc) once we got there--and my wife started chatting with one of the guys from the club, and she told him to just hand his cooler over to me because I wouldn't mind hauling it for him and then they'd be able to walk and talk.
     
  17. bricbat

    bricbat Well-Known Member

    About a week ago my wife sent me out to buy a box of condoms. I was hoping they were for me/us. I brought them home and put them in her dresser drawer. She hasn't said anything about them since then.
     
  18. bricbat

    bricbat Well-Known Member

    If my wife goes away for a few days to a conference with her boss, flying on a corporate jet, and her boss is a physically imposing guy she regards as her work-buddy and mentor, and one of the organizers of the conference hosts a big party at his house, which my wife describes as a "gorgeous" massive house high up in Santa Fe, New Mexico, and she calls me late in the evening from the party to tell me how much fun she's having and how spectacular the scenery and house are, and she sounds like she's been drinking, and she admits to having "a little white wine,"

    ......what should I be thinking as I try to go to sleep after a phone call like that?
     
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  19. ffred

    ffred Active Member

    What`s about the box of condoms in the dresser drawer? Did she take them with her? Any used wrappers?

    Ciao
    fred
     
  20. bricbat

    bricbat Well-Known Member

    It's still there, unopened.

    Her wedding ring was in the bathroom cabinet.

    She's back now, and teaching her class at the college.

    Every night when I'm laying in bed she's there beside me, FaceTiming her friends, talking about a couple "amazing" guys in her classes.
     

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