A question of girth

Discussion in 'A Womans Perspective' started by pervfred, Jan 10, 2009.

  1. rfresco

    rfresco Active Member

    Although we have been active in this lifestyle for quite some time, this is the first time I have decided to respond. My wife and I have discussed this very topic a few times, and she is a ‘girth girl’ vice ‘length girl’.
    She likes a cock to be long enough to give her nice long and slow strokes. For her, the best size (length) is between 6.5 and 7.5 inches – I am 6). According to her, cocks that are over 7.5” tend to bang her cervix, which she finds uncomfortable enough to be distracting.
    That being said, she LOVES a thick cock – one that really stretches her entrance to a point that it’s noticeable. I’m 5.5” around and while it’s not a statistic that a lot of men keep in mind (Hell lady, I’m 6.5” around!) I can honestly say that she has enjoyed men who are at least an inch larger in that department. Trust me when I say that in that instance, the seal was super tight and almost no semen coated his cock after ejaculation.
    But I will also caution that in the event of your wife encountering a larger girth, the bull needs to be SUPER considerate! It’s best if he is fully erect (hard) and he proceeds slowly, giving your wife adequate time to adjust to his size. In our book, if a male isn’t considerate in this department, he will have ruined any chance of a ‘repeat performance’. Going slow and listening to the wife as she directs him is an essential foundation for mutual pleasure.
    Just our take on the topic.
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  2. slavedaniele

    slavedaniele Active Member

    My wife also prefers the thickness. She likes at least 7" but she says it's the thickness that makes her orgasm several times in one night.
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  3. Frank12

    Frank12 New Member

    I saw your recent comment and wanted to add in something I've found to be very much enjoyed by the wives. I'm thicker than average and I agree that taking one's time is *very* important - but as I first am entering my cock isn't always its hardest and thickest - different from twenty years ago when It seemed to nearly always be hard.

    But once I'm in and she is getting comfortable with the fucking I tend to start to swell and thicken. If I put her ankles up on my shoulders and nuzzle her feet I can take it another step harder and thicker - and the wives notice. That wouldn't work well with too long of a cock I've been told, exactly because of the cervix banging. The slow increase in tightness feels great from my side, and I've heard some very nice comments from women who love the feeling of getting fuller and being stretched more *after* I'm in. It's a different way of slowly allowing a petite pussy to accommodate a thick cock.
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  4. christinebitg

    christinebitg Well-Known Member

    I think Freud was over-rated, particularly in areas pertaining to sexuality.

    However, speaking from personal experience with a female partner, I can say that I discovered a sensitive area in her. Then I found out some people had labelled it the G spot. (It was a long time ago, before there was any popular literature on the G spot.)


    There is a place that I find to be much more useful than the G spot, at least with my partner. It's farther in and more difficult to reach. Again, discovered it purely by accident myself, and since then have been hearing people try to give it a name. All I know is that it seems to be a sensitive ridge, perhaps covering a nerve. There's more to that in terms of what I do with it, that's a whole separate topic that I can discuss if asked.
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  5. rfresco

    rfresco Active Member


    That's pretty good advice - will pass it on to my wife. Thanks for responding!

  6. mistyblue

    mistyblue New Member

    girth is everything to me love the feeling of being full
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  7. My girlfriend prefers a thick than a long cock, she doesn't care too much about the length, the kind of cock she likes is the one she can't fit in her mouth.
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  8. Sub hub

    Sub hub New Member

    My wife say girth is far more important than length,her lover (my best mate)is 9.5 long and 6.5 girth,she says it totally fills her up and she loves that full feeling.
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  9. themav54

    themav54 New Member

    Girth Over Length

    My wife also prefers girth over length. She says that if the cock is very long that it sometimes hurts when thrusting really hard. But the girth of the penis gives you that 'full' feeling..
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  10. slowpoking

    slowpoking Well-Known Member

    Very interesting, Christine -- this is similar to our experience. Except it's not me hitting that spot.

    I'm a bit longer than average -- about 7 inches -- and have always pushed the edge of what she's comfortable with. If I thrust too much, it sometimes bottoms out against her cervix and is uncomfortable. Once she's highly aroused, her vagina elongates and I can pound away, but really she's always preferred a cock in the 5.5 to 6 range.

    Her current lover is in that range, and not only is he more comfortable, he also hits a place like the one you described -- something no one else has ever done. She never knew it was there, but said he pressed against it the first time he entered her, causing her to gasp. We've done some research and think it's something called the A-spot, another part of the clitoral complex. According to what she's read (don't know the source), it's a ledge or pocket on the roof of the vagina, toward the back but not as far as the cervix. Since he found it, I've tried going at her from every angle but can't touch it. He, on the other hand, hits it over and over again. The most exquisite, she said, is when he's pushed all the way in and then gives an extra, slightly sideways thrust of his hips. She said this feels like it causes his cock head to flick or slide off the side of the spot, similar to a thumb strumming that shaft that runs up from her clit. But even when he's just pumping away he hits it on almost every stroke, regardless of position. And she doesn't hesitate to tell me what a difference it makes and how much better it feels than when I fuck her.

    Two more quick notes. His cock is also a bit thinner than mine, apparently because he has less of that spongy tissue. As a result, his cock seems to get harder, which she likes. And because he fits in her mouth easier, she enjoys blowing him more. I'm thrilled with all of it.
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  11. slowpoking

    slowpoking Well-Known Member

    By the way, Christine, I'd be very interested to hear what you're doing with that spot.
  12. happycuck23

    happycuck23 New Member

    Me too, Christine.
  13. redfox01

    redfox01 New Member

    ok Lets hear about the spot it sounds very interesting Christinebitg :)
  14. christinebitg

    christinebitg Well-Known Member

    I use one finger to reach it. :)

    Okay, for those who asked...

    It's a ridge on the front wall of the vagina, or at least it feels like that. I've never seen it, of course, only touch it whenever I get her off orally.

    She has to already be quite turned on. You can NOT just go for it directly. Lots of standard foreplay, plus fingering without going that far in. At some point, I know that it's okay to go for it. (If not, she indicates to me that she's not ready yet.)

    The location is just barely within my reach, so it's a long way in, and that's when I'm kneeling between her legs to go down on her, which I do continuously during the following.

    When I touch it, I sort of stroke it in an up and down direction (not side to side). Gently touching it, and of course be very careful not to scrape with a fingernail. After a few minutes of that, her breathing starts to quicken, and you get all the obvious signs of a woman about to have an orgasm. Followed, of course, by her having one. Keep going while she's coming, and then stop when she's finished with it.

    I don't know what you'd need to do with it in between orgasms, since my girlfriend is not multi-orgasmic.

    Don't pull your finger out right away, wait for her to come down off her orgasm, and then do it very gently.

    Hope that helps. Let me know if you have questions.


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  15. slowpoking

    slowpoking Well-Known Member

    Thanks very much for the info, Christine. At first I was thrown off by "front wall," but I'm guessing that's what I call the ceiling of her vagina -- that it's a question of orientation, like whether she's standing or laying down. And just barely within reach of your finger sounds about the same as a place that my wife's boyfriend could reach with his cock. So I guess we're talking about the same place.

    I'll try using my finger to reach it with my wife, but I'll probably have to build up to it. She's had issues with fingers ever since our son was born. But I just started introducing fingers to oral sex -- in small ways -- and she's responding favorably.
  16. christinebitg

    christinebitg Well-Known Member

    "Front wall" as in towards the front of her body. It's above everything else if she's lying on her back.


  17. spmartini

    spmartini New Member

    My wife has experienced both ends of the spectrum lenght and girth and she has always said that a thicker penis is more satisfying than a longer one. The greater the circumfrence the more contact with the wals of the vagina where all the blood flow resides thus making it more stimulating and pleasurable for her. She has had two lengthy men 8+ inches and while she said it was nice to feel the length takes away from the experience since a good inch of their cock is still outside her vagina and the head is buried against her cervix which causes discomfort and sometimes pain.
  18. saturn

    saturn Super Moderator Staff Member

    Yep, I'd rather have my avg length, but girthy dick over a 12 incher any day. I've often said I feel bad for those guys cause they'll never know what it feels like to be truly balls deep in a woman (at least not without causing her some serious pain).
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  19. Mickle

    Mickle New Member Founding Member

    You have to choose the women who have extensive training, and left college with a Oral Degree :D :D :D
  20. don_jetman

    don_jetman Well-Known Member Founding Member

    Years ago I refused to believe that bigger meant better, that it was just a myth created for porn flicks and internet stories. Then came the night I first used a cock ring with L, some time before we began to play. I was stunned. Even with just the slight additional girth from the extra blood retention, she came in half the time, moaning and thrashing under me like I had never seen her before. Long after my myth-busting experience, L eventually found a really thick guy, and became obsessed with him. It took a long time for her to admit it, but she finally confessed that the sensation of stretching and fullness was more satisfying than any sex she had ever had. She also mentioned that quickies with the guy were easier because she came so much sooner with him. It was a bit of a blow to my ego at the time, as I always thought I was big enough for her not to notice a difference with other men (giant cocks are a myth, right?).

    I use a cock ring more and more these days as I've passed the fifty mark, especially if L hasn't been with another guy for a while. I love seeing her come harder, and I can last much longer before she does. It's kind of funny though - when she's been with someone and we have sex right after, or even if she's seeing a guy regularly, I don't wear the ring, and she knows right away to play the "he was much bigger than you" game, even if he wasn't. The adjustable penis - a size for every occasion.

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