Thread: How did you get started as a Bull?

I've mentioned in other threads that I have some experience on both sides--both as a bull and as a cuckold. But I never really understood this game until I became a cuck, and I now realize, looking back, that I missed a lot of opportunities with other couples because I didn't really understand the game, and they were clueless and looking to me for direction. I couldn't figure out the husband's angle--what he would get out of the experience--and so I didn't know how to handle him. My successful experiences in the role of bull were limited to a couple of couples who knew what they wanted, and several women whose husbands were not involved in the experience, although what she did or said to him after she went home I don't know.

My wife and I had a couple of 3-ways with a close friend years ago, and we came to spend a lot of our pillow talk time fantasizing about doing it with various guys she was attracted to. She could not deal with detailed fantasies about me and other women, while I had little problem with the opposite. But it took years of this, and then a 3-way with a guy she had slept with on a business trip, for her to figure out that she needed the lover to be completely in charge, and she needed for me to be submissive to him, in order for her to be able to fully relax and enjoy the sex. Eventually, we started a regular thing with the first guy, who had remained a close friend over the years, and she began to flesh out the roles she wanted each of us to play, and what she might want from an ideal 3-way. The picture that emerged looks very like the classic cuckold fantasy one can find on sites like this: The other guy is dominant to us both, I am submissive to them both, he does things to her that I can't do, or that she won't let me do, and she loves them. She wants me to eat his cum out of her pussy, and if she had her druthers, he'd make me suck his cock, and I'd do so willingly. She even fantasizes about a lover with a much bigger cock than mine, because she says it would be a guaranteed and symbolic superiority over me. Even though none of this was my fantasy, I have learned to get into the submissive role, and even to enjoy it. It is a very different experience from being in charge. It's much more complicated emotionally, but it has the advantage that you don't have to be responsible for what happens--you just respond to others' requests and commands.

Anyway, it has me thinking about those missed opportunities over the years, and wishing I could relive them, knowing what I know now about this game. I'll bet I could have seduced most of them into a cuckolding arrangement, even though they had no clue exactly what they wanted. In each case, I had the hots for her, she had the hots for me, and he was both threatened and extremely turned on by that fact.

It also has me wondering, how did those of you who have fairly extensive experience as the bull get started, adn how do you identify couples who are candidates for this game?